Iningi lezingane lisabela kakhulu ngokomzwelo ezenzakalweni ezizungezile. Bakhetha ithoyizi - izinyembezi, noma bebengadlala, umama akazange anikeze i-candy - abahlaziyi, bezwa okuthile okuhlekisayo - ehleka ngokuzwakalayo, wabona umngane - egijima futhi ehamba. Than ingane encane, ukhululekile ubonisa imizwa yakhe, kokubili okuhle nokubi. Kanti, abantu abadala bacabanga ukuthi imizwa enjalo isiphepho ayamukeleki. Futhi manje sizama ukuzolalisa ingane: ngokuthula, ungenzi umsindo, ungakhubeki kakhulu, yeka ukuduma, njll.
Futhi abazali ngokwabo kaningi abazi ukuthi bangayithatha kanjani imizwa yengane. Omunye uphuthuma ngokuphindaphindiwe konke ukugeleza kwakhe okwesibindi kumntwana, othile uzama ukufihla intukuthelo yakhe nokucasula futhi ahambisane neziyalo ezithulile. Abaningi besaba ukumtshela obala ngentukuthelo yabo, ukucasuka, ukuzisola, ukuze bangamlimazi.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uKaterina Murashova siqinisekile ukuthi ukuvimbela imizwa yomuntu akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yabazali. Umuntu akakwazi ukuzwa imizwelo, lokhu kungokwemvelo. Futhi, akufanele ukwesaba imizwelo engafanele futhi ubheke njengento evelele. Noma kunjalo, noma yimiphi imizwelo kumele ifundwe ukuyiqonda futhi iphendule ngokwanele kubo.
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Manje angifuni ukufunda izincwadi zesayensi ezithandwayo nge-psychology futhi angazi ukuthi ziyibhala. Kunezincwadi eziningi ezinjalo, futhi ngokuqinisekile phakathi kwabo kukhona okuhle, okuphakathi futhi kubi kakhulu. Kodwa ngasikhathi sinye, ngisekhona indoda yobudala baseSoviet, futhi ngakhulela ngendlela engangiqiniseka ngayo ukuthi bekungeke kube nobuwula obukhulu kakhulu encwadini.
Futhi manje nginenkinga ethile, ngoba ngokuphindaphindiwe abomama beza kimi futhi bathi ngokuqiniseka ukuthi kwezinye izincwadi zengqondo ziye zafunda ukuthi abazali akufanele babonise imizwelo yabo embi kumntwana, ngakho-ke, akusikho ukuhlukunyezwa.
Kuyinto engokoqobo ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele afunde incwadi efanayo. Ngakho kukhona okungenani ezimbalwa zazo?
Futhi nakhu, lo mama ethile, nazo zonke konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze enze iseluleko ewusizo ochwepheshe abanekhono. Futhi isikhashana wayeze uthola uzibambe, kanye nomntwana babonakala cha realize ukuthi unina manje uthukuthele, uthukuthele, uphatheke kabi, uthukuthele, nokunye. Nokho, uma umama, okuyinto ziye zahlanganisa umsebenzi ongaziwa ezinjalo, phlegmatic. Futhi uma sisondelene ne-choleric?
Lapha ingane iphula ngokungavunyelwe okuthile. Umama, ekhumbula ukufunda nokuzama ukuhambisana nazo zonke izincomo "zengqondo," uthi:
"Akufanele ukwenze lokhu." Ngikuvimbele kaningi. Futhi wathi kuyingozi. Ngiyaxolisa ukuthi awuzange ulalele amazwi ami ...
Kodwa-ke, noma kunjalo, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ikhono lokuvimbela imizwa yabo iphelelwe yimuphi umama. Kukhona ukuqhuma. Futhi-ke umntwana ompofu uthola isikhathi esisodwa futhi manje, futhi kuzo zonke izikhathi zangaphambilini. Futhi lokhu, empeleni, kwamsabisa ngempela futhi wamshiya edidekile. Kungani okwedlule izikhathi ezingamashumi amabili esho ngokuthula ukubeka le nto, futhi manje ukukhala njengesihlahla? Yini eguqukile?
Uma lokhu umjikelezo iyaphindwa ngokuphindaphindiwe, izwe uqala ukubheka ingane ngokomzwelo umcimbi ezingalindelekile. Futhi ngokwemvelo ukhulisa ukukhathazeka, futhi noma ngabe umsebenzi wokuphila jikelele uyancipha (ingane isaba ukuzama), noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukwephulwa kwezivumelwano eziyaziwayo kuba ngaphezulu ngokucacile futhi okubonisa, nokuziphatha njengento evusa inkanuko. Ngokuyinhloko kuxhomeke ekutheni ubumnene namandla ohlelo lwesifo somntwana. Omunye esimweni sokungaboni kahle okwenzekayo kulula futhi engokwemvelo ukufihla, kanti omunye umuntu, ongakwazi ukubekezelela ukungaqiniseki, ngenhloso "uyaqhubeka nokuduma kwezulu."
Lokhu kungakolunye uhlangothi. Kodwa kukhona enye.
Cishe imvamisa efanayo njengalezi ezingenhla (futhi ngezinye izikhathi kungabantu abafanayo), umama, ubaba nomkhulu bafika kimi ngombuzo:
- Uyazi, bakhuluma ngemizwelo kanye nokuhlakanipha kwengqondo yonke indawo. Yithi, lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, izingane zanamuhla zinenkinga ngalokhu, futhi kumele zifundiswe lokhu. Yebo, asazi ukuthi yena abe imizwa yabanye abantu abaqondi futhi musa acabangele. Mhlawumbe yi-autism yakhe? Cha? Khona-ke i-Asperger syndrome? Futhi akunjalo? Kulungile-ke? Udinga ukumfundisa? Ngakho lena yinkinga: indlela yokufundisa, akukho ndawo ebhaliwe ngempela. Sithenge izithombe ezithi zifundisa ukuhlakanipha ngokomzwelo, ngakho-ke kukhona ubuso obunamathele obudwetshiwe, akafuni ukubukeka, futhi thina ngokwethu, sithembekile futhi. Mhlawumbe uzotusa ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile kithi noma umbuthano?
Izimo ezimbili engizichazayo ziyizinhlangothi ezimbili zemali efanayo.
Ukuzwela kithi nakwezilwane kuyinto engavamile. Asikwazi ukuzizwa. Kodwa ukuhlonza kwabo kanye nokwelashwa okulungile emphakathini kufanele kufundiswe.
Futhi owokuqala ngesikhathi nangeminyaka eminingi isimiso esiyinhloko kule nqubo yengane yimizwa yabazali bayo kanye namanye amalungu omndeni. Umntwana ubona, uthola amagama abo, uwaxhuma ngezimo ezithile nokuziphatha kwakhe, ufunda ukubona ngesikhathi futhi aphendule ngokufanele kubo.
Ngaphambili, ngo-imindeni emikhulu phezulu nemiphakathi, lokhu kuqeqeshwa zenzeka ngendlela engokwemvelo, ngoba izinto eziningi kakhulu ekuphileni kancane "ongaphakeme keme 'wengane kwakuxhomeke isimo esingokomzwelo abantu abadala ezizungezile, futhi abazithandayo nokuvikeleka, wafundiswa ukuba" funda ". Manje, ngenxa yezizathu ezicacile, le nqubo yaqala ukuhluleka.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Yiqiniso, usafundisa. Kanjani?
Lapha esimweni esibucayi kakhulu abazali abavuma ngokuthembeka: "Yebo, mina (a) ngiyingozi emphakathini (ah). Ngaphandle njalo ngiyakwazi ukubona imizwa yami kanye nabanye. Futhi ngokuvamile ngisabela ngokungalungile, ngifinyelela ezimweni eziwubuwula. Ngiyaqonda umkami (umyeni) izikhathi ezine ngolwesihlanu, nomamazala (umamazala) - akakho neze. Ngaso sonke isikhathi kubonakala kimi ukuthi (yena) uzalisa lawo mademoni ekuqaleni ... "
Yebo, uma kunjalo, kuzodingeka sifunde ndawonye.
Khomba eyodwa.
Kukhona imizwelo. Kudingeka bazi. Yenza uhlu lwemilayezo oyaziyo. Uma kunaphansi kwezihloko ze-25 kukhona into okufanele usebenze kuyo. Amashumi amane noma ngaphezulu ngumphumela omuhle. Uhlu lungaboshwa odongeni njengesikhumbuzi.
Khomba ezimbili.
Thatha imizwelo ohlwini oluvela kuwe nakwezwe (njenge-Pokemon, khumbula?) Futhi shayela phezulu. Lapha ngithukuthele. Lapha kule ifilimu, usephelelwe ithemba. Lapha iqabunga lekwindla lihamba ngesibhamu se-lantern ebusweni bokuthula - ujabule! Futhi njalo. Zama ukwenza njalo njalo phambi kwengane.
Iphuzu lesithathu.
Ungaqambi amanga nemizwa! Uma ucasuliwe kancane, vele uthi: Ngicasuliwe kancane. Uma usuke uthukuthele, ubonise ngokuqondile ukufutheka, hhayi ukucasula okuncane. Uma ungenandaba neyesihlanu yomdwebo wokuhlwa, okwenzele ingane yakho, kungukungakhathaleli akubonayo.
Khombisa ezine.
Imizwa ikhona, lokhu akukhulunywe ngakho. Yonke imizwa evela kubo iyamukeleka. Kodwa ngokuqhubeka imfoloko - kunezindlela ezamukelekayo nezingamukeleki zokuveza le mizwa kanye nemizwelo. Futhi isethi yezindlela ezamukelekayo nezingamukeleki ziyahlukahluka kuye ngokuthi inkathi, indawo, isiko, ngisho nomndeni kuphela. Umsebenzi wakho - ukuchaza, ukutshela, ukukhombisa ingane, lapho, eqinisweni, uthola khona. Yisiphi isethi lapha esamukelwe, okungenjalo.
Iphuzu lesihlanu.
Ingane encane, ikakhulukazi ukuqeqeshwa kufanele kube.
Uma uthukuthele, unga (izindlela ezamukelekayo zokuveza intukuthelo):
- khamuluka bese ushaya izinyawo zakho,
- ukuphunyuka kwelinye igumbi noma lokugezela,
- uphonsa ithoyizi yakho,
- Ukuthi: Ngithukuthele, ungangithinti manje.
Awukwazi (izindlela ezingamukeleki):
- ukukhahlela inja,
- ukushaya udade osemncane,
- Phonsa abazali izinto phansi.
Uma uthanda ingane engakajwayelekile noma omdala, unga (izindlela ezamukelekayo zokubonisa ukuzwelana):
- ukusho ukumncoma,
- anikele ukudlala (futhi ungagcizelela, uma enqaba),
- uphathe okuthile, uma kungenzeka ngezimo,
- nikeza usizo lwakho (futhi ungaqiniseki uma usizo lunqatshiwe).
Awukwazi (izindlela ezingamukeleki):
- ukuqala ukumncenga ukumbamba noma ukukhuphuka emadolweni,
- ukufuna ukuthi ukunakekelwa kwakhe kufanele kube yedwa kuwe noma ukuthi wadlala nawe kuphela,
- qinisa, umkholise ukuthi adle noma enze lokhu noma lokho.
Khombisa ayisithupha.
Ukuqiniswa okuqinisekisiwe okuyingxenye yakho nganoma yisiphi isinyathelo esanele ingane esingaphansi kwesigaba 4.
"O, ngibone ukuthi ugogo wakho wayethanda ngempela ukuncoma kwakho ngekhanda lakhe elimangalisayo ngempela."
"Ubalekele empikiswaneni nodade wakho osemncane, futhi ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi kuleli cala kwakuyindlela enhle kakhulu yokuphuma. Mina nobaba sasithanda ukuthi usabela kanjani masinyane futhi ngokucacile. "
Ukuqiniswa okungekho emthethweni kwama-infidel, kusukela ekubukeni kwe-algorithm echazwe ngenhla, izenzo.
"Umama nje wayengazi ukuthi angaphi lapho ebanga khona, futhi nganginamahloni kakhulu."
"Ngiyamangala nje - indodana yami yamshaya uZhuchka, omthandayo nomuntu ongenacala, ngoba yena, ubona, akazange anikezwe i-candy yesibili. Woza kimi maduzane, Zhuchenka, ngizokuhawukela. Kodwa wena, ndodana, manje, emva kwalokhu, angifuni ukubona. "
Awekho ama-mugs noma ukuqeqeshwa kwalokhu kuzothatha isikhundla, kholwa nami.
Source: ihappymama.ru