Amandla omndeni
Ubuntwana obujabulisayo, lapho kukhona umama nobaba abangakwazi ukwenza konke emhlabeni, bathandane nathi, basinike izinto ezidingekayo kakhulu - uthando olungenamibandela nokuvikeleka, ukuqashelwa nokusekelwa, hhayi wonke umuntu owayenakho. Mhlawumbe, intombazane ngayinye yesibili yayikhala futhi imemeze kunina: “Lapho sengikhulile, ngizoba umama, futhi ngeke ngifane nawe.” Kungaba kuhle uma wonke umama ezizwa ephephile futhi eqiniseka emhlabeni futhi edlulisela lo muzwa ezinganeni zakhe. “Uhlala ulungile, umhlaba ungakunika konke okudingayo. Mina nobaba sizophatha yonke into, nawe ukhule ntombazane yami ube yingane, wondle ngothando ujabulele ubudedengu. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile umama akasho kanjalo. Phela naye wayenomama, lowo wayenowakhe, njalo njalo ad infinitum. Futhi ngamunye wabo - umama, ugogo, ukhokho - wakhuliswa emibonweni yabo ngezwe nabantu, mayelana nokulungile nokungalungile. Uhlelo olujwayelekile akulona nje izakhi zofuzo kanye “namehlo afana nomama”. Kubuye kube ifa elinamandla nengqondo: izimo, imibono yempilo, ukwesaba kanye namakhono, isipiliyoni esiphilayo kanye nama-gestalts angavaliwe adlula esizukulwaneni kuya kwesinye.
Kungakanani okwaziyo ngabazali bakho namadlozi? Sibheka izithombe ezimnyama nokumhlophe kuma-albhamu, sidlula ukuze sivakashe. Siyabazi njengoba sasibabona bonke ebuntwaneni bethu.
Uke wacabanga ukuthi zihlobana kanjani nempilo? Ugogo wahlangana kanjani nomkhulu? Baphila kanjani, yibuphi ubunzima nobunzima abadlula kubo, futhi kanjani ngempela? Ubani owakuthanda, ukhethe ini, wenzeni futhi kungani? Uhlelo lomndeni luyisihlahla lapho singamaqabunga namagatsha, futhi okhokho bethu bayizimpande zethu. Futhi uma singazizwa uxhumano nezimpande, khona-ke silahlekelwa ukwesekwa okuyisisekelo ekuphileni, futhi ngaphandle kwayo akunakwenzeka ukuzwa ukuzinza kwethu. Siwumfanekiso wokhokho bethu ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane, futhi uzomangala ukuthi ufana kangakanani nogogo nomkhulu kanye nokhokho bakho.
Induku ingamandla ethu nokulinganiselwa kwethu. Umsebenzi kamama, ubaba kanye nalo lonke uhlelo olujwayelekile ukusiza ingane yenze imisebenzi yayo isebenze ngaphakathi kokuhlangenwe nakho kwayo. Ukwembula izimfanelo zomuntu ezizomsiza ukuba athuthukise amandla akhe ngokugcwele, ukuzwa isiphetho sakhe ngendlela engokwemvelo, hhayi ngokuzifuna njalo. Ngamanye amazwi, umsebenzi wohlelo olujwayelekile ukukusiza ukuthi uzikhumbule. Kungani uze lapha, yiziphi iziphiwo onazo, uyini wena nendlela yakho. Thina ngokwethu, nangaphambi kokuzalwa, sikhetha uhlelo olujwayelekile oluhambisana nomxholo wethu kanye nemisebenzi yethu. Lokhu akuyona ingozi, kodwa ukusebenza kwemvelo kohlelo. Njenganoma yiluphi uhlelo, nayo inemithetho yayo.
Ubulili busithinta kanjani?
Isibonelo, iqiniso lokuthi ungaphinda isimo sempilo kagogo wakho, uphathe okuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo okufanayo nomkhulu wakho, khetha amadoda ngokwesimo sikagogo wakho. Ubuntu bethu buncike ezinsikeni ezimbili - owesilisa nowesifazane, kumama nobaba. Ngokuvamile sisebenza ngabazali bethu: sihlaziya ubuntwana bethu kanye nobudlelwano nabo. Kodwa lapho siqala ukujula, siyaqaphela ukuthi abazali bethu nabo bathatha lezi zimo, lesi simo, lo mbono weqiniso.
Kuyavunywa ukuthi sikhetha amandla kanye nomthelela wokhokho bethu kuze kufike esizukulwaneni sesikhombisa. Kodwa empeleni, yonke into ayifani kangako, futhi ukusebenza kokuhlangenwe nakho okudingekayo ekuthuthukisweni kwakho kungenzeka ngisho nangalawo madlozi ongawazi nhlobo. Yiziphi izimo engikhuluma ngazo? Ngokwesibonelo, ugogo wayethanda indoda ethile, kodwa wayeshadile. Wabhekana nokungakwazi ukukhetha futhi waphila impilo yakhe yonke enomuzwa wokuthi "uthando lubuhlungu, isizungu sangaphakathi nenhliziyo ephukile" futhi "Anginalo ilungelo lokukhetha." Kunesimo sokuphoqeleka, imizwa yesibopho kanye necala, ukudumala empilweni, ukuphela kwamandla. Kulesi simo, izingane ziyavela futhi zinganakile zimunce okusakazwa ugogo wazo.
Abazali bangathi: “Phila ngokwenhliziyo yakho, lalela izwi lakho elingaphakathi,” kodwa ngisho namazwi okuvalelisa anekhono futhi aqondile aphulwa isibonelo esiphilayo sabazali abangazivumeli ukuba baphile ukuphila kwabo. Izingane ziyaqhubeka nokubheka futhi zilinde ukudumazeka - yile ndlela i-automatism engazi lutho, ukwakheka kokungazi kwethu ukuphindaphinda kokuhlangenwe nakho kokhokho babo. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhlala esimweni njengamanje. Uhlale unenketho: qhubeka noma uyiguqule.
Kungani siphinda sikhumbula izehlakalo ezingezinhle kaningi?
Ingabe le karma iyasebenza? Emhlabeni jikelele, yebo. Kunesimo esiphindaphinda izikhathi eziningi, kunenani elikhulu lemizwelo engashiwongo ohlelweni. Futhi konke lokhu kugcinwa futhi kudluliselwe phansi njengenkumbulo yomzimba kusuka esizukulwaneni kuya kwesinye. Ngeke nje sithathe futhi siqaphele isimo esesiphile kuso iminyaka eminingi nezizukulwane eziningi. Kodwa uma kukhona okuthile okungahambisani nawe empilweni yakho - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo obunzima nabazali bakho, ukuntuleka kwezimali, ubunzima ebudlelwaneni namadoda, noma ukuthola kunzima ukwakha imingcele yomuntu siqu noma uzizwa unesizungu - lokhu kuwuphawu lokuthi unezikhala ekugelezeni kwamandla.
Ukufingqa, masikhumbule ukuthi igama elithi "karma" ngesiSanskrit lisho "isenzo". Okungukuthi, wumfutho osiqhubezela ekutheni siguquke. Isibonelo, ukukhashelwa kuye kwenzeka izikhathi eziningi ohlelweni lwakho lwezizwe, futhi manje uphila nokwesaba ukuthi uzolahlwa, ukhohliswe futhi ukhashelwe. Ingabe i-Karma? Yebo. Ukungezwani ohlelweni kudala lokhu kwesaba kanye nokuvimba ukusondelana okuqotho nabantu. Ikwenza ungabaze wonke umuntu futhi uzivalele emhlabeni. Bese kuba khona izinto ezimbili ongakhetha kuzo: qhubeka uzivale emhlabeni noma uzibone ungaphakathi kwesimo esilimazayo futhi esikuvimbela ukuthi uphile ngokukhululeka nokuzijabulisa. Mphulukise futhi uphile impilo yakho ebumnandini.
Umuntu angacasuka ukuthi kungani amadlozi ayengakwazi ukuphila ngendlela evamile futhi akhethe indlela yeqiniso, kodwa ephila ngokungeyikho kanye nokuhlanekezelwa. Futhi ungazibuza umbuzo: kungani ngilapha? Mhlawumbe ukuze ngisize isistimu yami ilulame futhi ngizithathele lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho okubalulekile? Mhlawumbe ngemuva kwalezi zimo kukhona insiza yami yokuvuleleka, futhi ngifuna ukuvuleka njengowesifazane, ubuntu, umphefumulo? Ngakho-ke, i-karma iphenduka entweni embi nembi ibe okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho okwakhayo.
Ungasishintsha kanjani isikripthi sempilo yakho
Ingabe kufanele sesabe i-karma? Cha, ngoba lezi ziyizisusa zokuthuthuka kwethu. Uma kukhona esikwamukele, khona-ke singakuguqulela nakanjani. Umbuzo nje wukuthi siyalokotha yini ukukuthatha. Cabanga ngalokho okwaziyo ngempela ngohlelo lwakho, futhi ingabe zikhona izimo eziphindaphindayo empilweni yakho ezidluliswa "njengefa elingenakuqokwa"?
Okulandelayo, uma unombono wohlobo lwakho, yisikhathi sokucwilisa ohlelweni lomndeni futhi uhlangane nomndeni. Yiba wedwa nawe, lungiselela indawo enokuthula ekhululekile kuwe, ethule futhi ephephile. Vala amehlo akho, gxila emizweni yakho yangaphakathi, futhi vele ubuke umoya wakho isikhashana ukuze ungene ujule ekuzindleni. Izwa ngemuva kwehlombe lesokunxele bonke abantu besifazane nangemuva kwehlombe langakwesokudla wonke amadoda ohlelo lwakho olujwayelekile. Induku ingamaphiko ethu, isisekelo esisihola ekuphileni. Wonke owesifazane kanye nawo wonke amadoda emndenini anendaba yakhe, ulwazi lwakhe, futhi bonke baxhumekile. Uma uzwa sengathi uxhumano luphukile ndawana thize, lubuyisele futhi uluzwe. Njengoba uzwa yonke intambo ekubophayo, bonga ukuthi ungubani nokuthi ungubani. Phela, yilowo nalowo ngezifundo zakhe, isipiliyoni sakhe sikwenza ube nje. Mhlawumbe uhlobo oluthile lobuhlungu luzovuka kuwe, lukhulume kuwo wonke umuntu olubhekise kuye, kuze kube seqophelweni lokuhlanzwa nokuthethelelwa.
Lo mkhuba uzokuvumela ukuthi udedele ezinye izikhalo, usungule ukuxhumana nokhokho bakho futhi uthathe elinye igxathu eliya ekukhululweni ezimweni ezijwayelekile. Manje njengoba usungabona kangcono indaba yakho nemibhalo yakho, uzizwe uxhumene nomndeni wakho, usuqalile ukushintsha impilo yakho ibe ngcono.
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