Abazali balungele ukwenza noma yini ukuze bakhule ingane enempilo nephumelelayo: ukuthuthukiswa kwangaphambili, ezemidlalo kusukela ekuzalweni, ukuqeqeshwa, izindlela zakamuva zemfundo nokuqeqesha. Sizodinga futhi ukwamukela ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukulawula izwe langaphandle, elingalimaza ingane. Ukuqala ngenqubomgomo yombuso, uthisha we-kindergarten.
Kodwa-ke, bambalwa bethu bakulungele ukwamukela ukuthi ingozi enkulu kunazo zonke ezinganeni, kodwa abazali ngokwabo. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Oksana Fortunatova mayelana nokuthi ukukhuliswa emndenini kuthinta kanjani impilo yengane.
I-Psychosomatics Education: Izindlela ze-9 zokubhubhisa ingane yakho
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Kodwa-ke, ingabe sicabanga ukuthi abantu abaseduze bangaba izitha eziyingozi kakhulu zomntwana?
Izitha ezinamandla, ezimbi futhi zonke-ukunqoba.
Namuhla, izingane eziningi ziba yizikhungo zamahhovisi wezokwelapha: izifo zokuxilonga azitholakali, ukwelashwa kubi, imali iphelile.
Komzimba, kolwelwesi, ukuhlaselwa catarrhal, ukugobeka komhlandla nezinye izifo ebuntwaneni ayisekho waqonda njengoba isifo izingadi egcwele sniffles futhi izingane ukukhwehlela, kanye ubuhlungu besisu futhi emuva ijika abafundi babé yinto evamile inqubo yemfundo. tics eyayisencane kakhulu kunaye, uvalo, amalimi awahlobene nalokho, ukunyakaza abayimilutha.
Ngokwezibalo ze-World Health Organization 47% yeziguli ezihlushwa yizifo zengqondo, futhi nje ukwelashwa ngeke kubasize.
Naphezu kokuthi i-International Classification of Diseases 10 inikeza incazelo ecacile yokukhathazeka kwengqondo kanye nezici zengqondo zesifo, odokotela bethu basalokhu benqikaza "ukumba" ngalezi zizathu.
Ingane ikhiqiza kanjani isifo se-psychosomatic?
Kusukela ekuboneni kwesayensi, isifo se-psychosomatic sinalo:
- ukubeka phambili;
- "Indawo enhle" yokubonakaliswa nokuthuthukiswa;
- cala indlela.
Imfundo ingumzila obomvu kuzo zonke izingxenye ezintathu.
Kungani imfundo, ubuhlobo buyimbangela enkulu yezempilo noma ukugula kwengane?
Ake siqale ngokuzalwa.
Ingane ihlelwe kahle kangangokuthi ikhono lakhe lokuqonda, ikhono lokuqhathanisa amaqiniso nokuthola iziphetho, livuke iminyaka engu-7-10.
Ingane ibona kanjani umhlaba nemvelo ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi?
I-Psychophysiologist uPaul Macklin e-70-ies ngesisekelo seminyaka eminingi yocwaningo iye yasungula inkolelo yokuthi ubuchopho bomuntu ekuthuthukisweni kwayo kwendabuko kudlule izigaba ezithile. Kwaqala ngemfundo eyisimanga, ukuqhubeka nokuthuthuka futhi kube nzima kakhulu.
Inqubo efanayo, kodwa ngesivinini esisheshayo, ingena ebuchosheni bomuntu kusukela ekuzalweni kuya ekuvuthweni.
Ingane, ezalwe, inezinkomba ezithuthukisiwe kahle (imiqondo engokwemvelo), lapho umnyango wasendulo-ukwakheka okubonakalayo-kunomthwalo wemfanelo. UPaul Macklin ngesisekelo socwaningo lwakhe uthole ukufana okuphawulekayo kwalesi sakhiwo nobuchopho bezilwane eziphilayo, ngakho-ke igama elithi "ubuchopho be-reptile" selubambe.
Kamuva, isazi sezifo zezinzwa uHugh Gerhard sakha ikhono elimangalisayo lomntwana ukuvumelanisa nomama. Ngokwemibhalo "ukubamba" izibonakaliso zakhe ezibalulekile: ukukhulisa, ukukhulisa-ukunciphisa abafundi, ukucindezela, ukuqubuzana kwezwi - ingane ikhiqiza yona!
Yini ehambisa umntwana? Isimo sokuphila. Ukudla, ukuphuza, ukuvikelwa, ukufudumala, ukulala, ukwelashwa - konke okusezandleni zomuntu omdala. Ingane ku-100% incike ekusindeni kwakhe kumama. Ngoba imvelo yabeka indlela eyingqayizivele yokuqondanisa kwabo: umama ngokusebenzisa izinqubo ze-hormone inezinga eliphezulu lokuzwela kwengane. Ingane ngokusebenzisa amakhono ayingqayizivele "ifundela" umama futhi ihambisane nayo ngokuvumelana nayo. Empeleni, lokhu kuyindlela yokusinda. Noma kunjalo, okubalulekile yilokho ingane ihlelwe khona: ubuhlobo bomama ngothando kanye nesimo sengqondo ngokucasula kubangela izinqubo ezihlukene ngokuphelele zokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yengane.
Uma uthando luthonya izindlela ezinamandla zokuzivikela zokumelana nokucindezeleka esikhathini esizayo emntwaneni, ukucasuka nenzondo kuyabhubhisa.
Maye, ngeminyaka lokhu kulungiswa kwengane engashiyanga. Yebo, ingane ikhula futhi kubonakala sengathi i-"I" yakhe iyakhiwa, kodwa ngenkathi engenakuzivikela emhlabeni, isebenzisa lolu lungiso lokuba "olwamukelekayo, oludingekayo, olwamukelwayo" ngakho-ke ludla, lugqoke futhi luvikelwe.
Uma umzali engaqondi futhi engalawuli le nqubo, kungenzeka ukuthi ingane izofunda ukukhohlisa imizwa yakhe, ukuze yamukeleke kumzali. Esikhathini esizayo, lena yindlela yokungquzulana kwangaphakathi kanye ne-psychosomatics engenzeka.
"Kodwa kuthiwani ngabantwana abakhamuluka ngaphandle kokuyeka, okuholela ekuziphatheni kwabo kubazali babo?" - uyabuza. Uma uqonda, baphinde baphendule ukwesaba okukhulu noma okulindelwe kwabazali. Ngokuvamile umzali onjalo uyaqiniseka: ingane inguvivinyo olunzima, yizinkinga eziningi, iyesabeka futhi iyingozi.
Uke waphawula ukuthi bangaki abantu bezinye izizwe abahamba ngezinsana? Abazali noma izingane ngisho nokusola ukuthi "kunzima, kuyingozi futhi kuyisiphukuphuku". Bajabule nje.
Yini engabangela ubanda, ukucasuka noma inzondo ngomama? Ukusuka ukungalingani kwamakhompiyutha - okungaqondakali nemicabango, futhi ngokushesha umama uthatha isinqumo mayelana nalokhu - amathuba amaningi enhlalakahle yengane.
Khona-ke ingane ikhula, futhi inqubo 'yokungena kwayo' ohlelweni lokubukwa kanye namasiko omndeni, khona-ke uhlelo lwezemfundo, ke umphakathi jikelele, luqala.
Iziphi izingibe ezisalinde umzali lapha?
Iningi labantu abadala bakholelwa ukuthi ingane yikhophi encishisiwe yomuntu omdala, nayo yonke imisebenzi namakhono omuntu omdala, akhulumi neze ku-100%.
Lona umbono ongalungile womhlaba jikelele. Ingane ihluke ngokuphelele. Futhi ukulindela kuye ukuthi yini umuntu omdala ongayenza, kodwa ngesaphulelo kuze kube sesikhathini sakhe, akulungile.
Esikhathini ngasinye sokuthuthukiswa kobuchopho kwengane, kukhona imisebenzi "ekhutshaziwe" okwamanje, futhi kukhona lokho ingane esebenzisayo manje, kodwa "bayawa" ngokuphelele lapho bekhulile.
Kudingeka bazi, badinga ukuqondiswa, ukudalula imisebenzi nemisebenzi yengane.
Lesi yisiqinisekiso sokuthi abazali ngeke bakhubaze ingane futhi bangaphuthelwa ukulibaziseka ekuthuthukiseni kwakhe.
Uma lokhu kunganakwa - i-neurosis nomzali, futhi ingane inikezwa.
I-genetic predisposition iyindlela enzima futhi engaqondakali. Abazali abaningi banesiqiniseko sokuthi ingane imane nje ifane nabo.
Cabanga nje, yenza okufanayo, kodwa ukuthi yini ongayichitha isikhathi - ukuphila kuyafana. Nokho, lokhu akunakwenzeka. Indlela yokuvikelwa ekuqedeni ukuchithwa kwemvelo yakhiwa ngokwemvelo ngendlela yokuthi ingane engeke ifane nomzali wayo. Behluke. Ukufana kwangaphandle kungcono ibhonasi enhle kule nqubo.
Ukwamukela noma ukungamukeli lokhu kuhlukana ukubeka imbangela yokuvumelanisa noma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwengane.
Ukuthanda, abangane, imigomo, indlela yokuphila nokuningi kwengane ekhethwe ngumzali.
Ngabe umntanakho uthola kanjani umphumela? Ukukhathazeka kwengqondo okubangelwa ukucindezeleka kwangaphakathi kwangaphakathi; ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo ngenxa yokubhujiswa kwezakhi zobuntu.
Ingane kuze kube yiminyaka engu-5-7 ibamba ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala, ukuzama ngamakhono abo, hhayi ukuhlaziya. Lena inqubo efanayo yokusinda: ufuna ukuphila-ukuhambisana.
Abazali abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ingane iyakhula - sizoqala ukufundisa: "khona-ke sizoyihlwanyela, iyokhungatheka".
Ingane kusukela ekuzalweni isivele ibambe yonke into ngesibonelo sabazali nabantu abadala abalulekile kuye. Ngokuzenzekelayo, ngokujulile futhi ngokungenakwenzeka.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane ingumphefumulo wenkampani kanye nesibalo esivela esikoleni kuncike ekutheni abazali bavulekile kangakanani ekukhulumisaneni nasekuhlanganyeleni empilweni yomphakathi. Uzoba ngumthwalo wamahhala noma ukusekelwa komndeni, kuxhomeke kulokho akubona emndenini wabazali. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzojabula yini ebuhlotsheni obuhlukile bobulili obuhlukile, kuncike ekutheni umama nobaba bahlala kanjani, futhi lokhu kwaba namuphi umphumela enganeni. Futhi ngakho konke.
Ukuba yinye, futhi ingane ukufundisa ukuthi ihluke uhlelo lwe-psychophysiologically insolvent scheme.
"Ukuphila kuyinkimbinkimbi, abazali balima ukuba bagqoke ngenhlalakahle yengane, hhayi ekuqotheni!"
Isicupho esingahle kakhulu.
Ekucindezelekeni, ingane izovikelwa futhi izosiza ukuphuma kuyo, kokubili ebuntwaneni nasekukhuleni, izindlela zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka, okunye okuyinhloko yezindleko ezingokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Ukuzizwa kwengane kwengane kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba ubaba wakhe alalele futhi anikeze iseluleko esihle, abeke izinto ngokuhlelekile kunokuba azilahle, kepha kubiza ukondla nokugqoka. Kuyinto ukunakekelwa kwabazali kanye nosizo oluzobekwa phansi kuze kube phakade futhi luzoba yisibonelo ezinkingeni ezilandelayo.
Imizwelo emihle yansuku zonke: injabulo ye-pie enomnandi, injabulo yokukwazi ukugijima ngama-puddles, ukumbamba ngaphandle kwesizathu esivela kumama, usuku oluhle kakhulu nobaba wakho - lezi akuzona nje izithombe ezinhle. Lezi izitini zomzwelo zokukhuthazela kanye nempilo yomzimba.
Ukuthanda nokuthanda noma ukufuna nokuqondile? Abanye bakhetha imfundo yamahhala ngothando oluningi kanye nezidingo ezincane, abanye - ukukhwabanisa nokufundiswa empilweni yangempela kusukela ebusweni.
Kodwa-ke, uma ungagcini ibhalansi - owokuqala kungaholela ekucindezelekeni kwe-neurotic esikhathini esizayo, kanti okwesibili - ukucindezeleka kokucindezela.
Umbuzo wokulinganisela kokuthandwa kanye nezidingo kuyinkinga yengqondo yengane yengqondo.
Iningi labazali cishe azizibuze yona umbuzo: "Ngiyiphi indlela yokufundisa engiyilandelayo?"
Lokhu kuyincazelo enengqondo: Abazali bayajabula nabo futhi abazali babo bakhulisa indlela abakhuliswa ngayo ngabazali babo.
Ukunganeliseki kukhuliswa ngesimiso: "Angisoze nginjengomama wami."
Futhi okukhethwa kukho kokuqala nesesibili akuqinisekisi ukungabikho kwamaphutha, ngoba akekho olinganisela uhlelo lomzali wemfundo ngenxa yalokho: umuntu onempilo futhi ojabule.
Ngakho-ke ngokuvamile kuvunywa ukuthi "wonke umuntu ungumkhwenyana wakhe", futhi impilo ngokuvamile "ihlathi elimnyama". Ngakho-ke, ohlelweni lwezemfundo njengesizathu sokugula nokungajabuli, akekho obala.
Ngeshwa, lokhu akunakwenzeka. Kungakhathaliseki elungile ohlelweni lwezemfundo ukhethe umzali, kodwa ngenxa yalokho ayikho njengomuntu uma izizwa akuphumelelanga, ingane abajabulile "uyosondela" futhi ukuzibona ngiyisiphukuphuku, nokudideka futhi ukwehluleka ubudlelwane, kanye nezinye izinto eziningi ukuthi kuyamlimaza umzali.
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