Thina, njengabazali, sifuna ukusindisa ingane kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi: kokubili ukusuka ekungeneni okuyingozi, nokusukusasa elingenathemba. Kodwa kangakanani ukuthi siyakwazi ukuwafinyelela? Kubonakala sengathi sikhetha amagama afanele, sisho izimpikiswano zensimbi, kodwa asikwazi ukufinyelela ukuqonda okufanayo. Njengokuthi sisho ngezilimi ezahlukene.
Futhi konke ngoba sikhuluma ngokubaluleka komuntu omdala futhi singacabangi izici zokubona kwengane yomhlaba. Othisha kanye nababhali izincwadi kubazali Zaryana Nina Nekrasov encwadini yakhe "Akukho ngozi: kusuka ekuzalweni kuya esikoleni" 7 ukunikeza iseluleko esisebenzayo sendlela ukukhuluma nengane yakho ukuze ayekuzwa waqonda.
"Ulimi lwezingane", noma Ungasho kanjani ukuthi ingane ikuqonda
Chaza ngokucacile nangokomfanekiso.
Bonisa ingane yakho into engajwayelekile (okungenani i-rattle efanayo) - futhi uzofika ngokushesha kuye. Zuza, zuza-ulalele, zama ngezinyo - leyo yindlela efanele yokujwayela indaba, ufunde okuthile okusha. Futhi izingane zicabanga, ngokusobala, ngokuhlukile: izithombe, izithombe. (Ekucabangeni kokuqala kuboniswa-okusebenzayo, ke-okubonakalayo-okufanisayo, futhi kuphela lapho ingane izokhula ibe nengqondo.)
Ukuze umntwana akhumbule okuthile, akanakho okuningi okukuzwayo. Kumelwe abone, azizwe, aqonde ngezinzwa nangokomzwelo (ngendlela, ingqondo yethu engacabangi isebenza ngendlela efanayo, ngoba yena ulimi lwendabuko - izithombe nemicabango).
Ungatshela ukuthi kuyingozi kangakanani ukuhambisa isembozo somthombo, nokuthi ujulile kangakanani, nokuthi hlobo luni lwamapayipi akhona, futhi ... ingane yakho izokhohlwa ngokushesha. Engqondweni yakhe, lokhu kukhishwa akukhulumi kabi, ngokuphambene nalokho, ufuna ukubuka, nokuthinta, nokumbamba ngezinyawo. Kodwa uma uhambisa indodana yakho emincanyana kancane futhi bambonise ikhava aminyene futhi ajulile, ngakho ngisho ngabe waphonsa ebumnyameni, itshe, nenkulumo, ukuthi kwakuzokwenzekani uma kukhona iwe indoda bese ucela ukuhogela kuka (fu, ihlazisa kanjani! ) aphume inuka (njll, njll) - ezifana Imininingwane slam ku inkumbulo yakhe yonke ihlale lapho unomphela, futhi ngesikhathi esifanele ukukhumbuza: "Ukunakwa ingozi" - okungukuthi, umsebenzi ezingeni reflex.
Ngakho-ke, ufuna ingane ikuqonde, iqonde ngempela - yakha isithombe futhi uhlanganyele izinzwa zakhe. Ngendlela, kubantwana abakhulu isithombe siwusizo kakhulu kunokukhuluma namazwi amade. Uhamba ngqo engqondweni enganaki, futhi noma yini efika lapho - ngeke ilahleke.
Dlala.
Umdlalo kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola ulwazi kumntwana. Futhi kangangokuthi bazinzile ngokuqinile enkumbulweni yakhe futhi ngesikhathi esifanele "bavela" lapho.
Ngenkathi ingane encane, zonke "izifundo zokuphepha" kufanele zihambe kanje, i-nenazoylivo, kwifomu lezemidlalo. Kodwa-ke, abantwana asebekhulile bafunda imibono ebalulekile kangcono, uma kungabonakali "ukudlala" ngokucacile. Kungani? Ngoba ukudlala izingane kungokwemvelo njengokuhamba nokuphefumula.
Ake sithi ingane yakho ishaya zonke izigqoko nama-panama ngisho naselwandle, ngisho nalapho ilanga likhanda ikhanda lakhe. Yebo, ungathembisa izinkinga eziyikhulu futhi "akukho ukugeza." Kodwa lokhu kuyoba indlela yokusebenzisa amandla, kodwa sidinga izingane ukuthi ziqonde ukuthi kungani zizivikela kanjani nokuthi zizivikela kanjani. Ukushona kwelanga nemiphumela eyingozi ngenxa yakhe - umqondo wengane awukho ngempela (futhi awuthandi), akunjalo? Kulula kakhulu "ukukhuluma" futhi uchaze konke "ngolimi lwezingane" - ngokusebenzisa umdlalo, ukuvuselela umcabango nomoya omuhle (wena, izingane ezinalo - ngaphandle kwezinkinga). Isibonelo, njengododoli uBarbie ukhohliwe ikhava yakhe ekhaya futhi wahamba, futhi kwenzekeni kuye, nendlela aphathwe ngayo ... Umdlalo ulula futhi iqiniso akudingeki ukuba ubeke eceleni isikhathi.
Lapha ubhaka ama-pancake ekhishini - futhi udlale. Damn - kungcono ilanga, ubone indlela kusuka imfiva, bazizwa, touch, futhi lokho ilanga, lapho kushisa ... (nokunye - zichazwe umdlalo / ifomu engokomfanekiso / kufinyeleleke) zonke izimbangela nemiphumela ukushisa unhlangothi. Ungakwazi ukupenda ndawonye ilanga neqembu elikhulu ...
Uma udlala - noma yikuphi iseluleko kubonakala ngokuhluke kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuphikisana kwangaphakathi, ngoba kuhlale kunjalo, ngoba uhamba ngokulinganayo, ungabalingani, ungabalingani nabangane.
Izifundo phakathi kwecala.
Khumbula indaba enenzondo ngaphambi kokuhlolwa futhi ukuthi ngokushesha futhi ngokuphephile ulikhohlwe kanjani, ngokushesha nje lapho udlulile. Kufana nalokhu lapha. Kuyini ukukhathala futhi kusuka ngaphansi kwetende - kuhlungwa ngukubunzima. (Lowo mbhikisho wangaphakathi uyisola!)
Izifundo zokuphepha, nazo, zenziwa ngendlela engavamile, ezibangela ukwazi kanye nesifiso sokufunda. Okuthakazelisayo ngokwengeziwe izifundo zakho, yisiqinisekiso esikhulu sokuthi ingane izozifaka "ezinhle kakhulu".
Isimiso esiyinhloko sokufunda ukufundisa ukuze ingane ifunde.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ingane ihlaliswe futhi inikezwe inkulumo. Awukwazi ukumenza alalele lokhu ihora lonke. Isifundo sifundwa ngisho nangabantu abadala futhi sigcinwa enkumbulweni ende ngamaphesenti amahlanu.
Ngakho khuluma ngokucacile, kafushane nangokomfanekiso.
Bonisa indlela yokwenza kahle.
Zonke izingane zithanda ukugibela izihlahla. Futhi akukho lutho olwesabekayo lapha. Lokhu ukuqeqeshwa kwezixhobo zokugqoka, kanye nekhono lomzimba. Kodwa ukuchaza ukuthi yiliphi igatsha elomile nokuthi liyakwazi kanjani ukukhohlisa, ukuhlukanisa, nokungafihli esihlahleni - lezi yizinto esizikhathazayo. Yiqiniso, ukuvinjelwa kulula, ikakhulukazi uma ube nakho okubi kusukela eseyingane ukuthi iyini - bawe, futhi uthole ubuhlungu, kodwa ngaphandle izihlahla babe ezicijile, izingodo, zokwakha kanye emfucumfucwini nge ekhangayo izingane izinto. (Futhi uma uqiniseka ngokuqinisekile ukuthi "ezindaweni zakho ezisolisayo" ingane yakho ngeke ihlale inamathele, futhi kungenalutho, awukwazi kahle izingane.)
Esitolo esikhulu, izisebenzi zikhohlwe, noma ngesizathu esithile eshiye isiteji esiphezulu-esiteji. Wakhanyisa ngazo zonke izinyathelo zakhe phakathi kwehholo lokuhweba, futhi abathengi abadala bahamba naye, nabancane-abamba iminwe, abadonsa. Futhi ngokungazelelwe intombazane eyodwa yezinkulungwane ze-4-5 yiletha umama wayo ngesibambo, yathi "i-aha?" Futhi yakhuphuka izinyathelo. Umama wayemi phansi, ebheka indodakazi yakhe futhi ekhuluma ngokuthula nomngane wakhe. (Emva kwakho konke, wabona ukuthi isisebenzi esivumelana naso sasikhuphuka ngalesi sigaba, futhi saqonda: ngakho-ke, kunezitebhisi ezinokwethenjelwa, futhi ngokusobala wayazi ukukhuphuka nokunamathela kumntwana.)
Njengezinyosi zezinyosi, zonke ezinye "izitolo" zezingane zikhangwa ngokushesha kulesi sigaba kuzo zonke izinhlangothi. Futhi i-soda encane yaqala. Izingane befa umona lamemeza: nazo wafuna ngiye esitezi nangaphezulu, umama besongelwa, futhi kwenqatshelwa, kwathi emangele, futhi udonse izingane, futhi abanomsindo wamthethisa "unina shiftless."
Asikhulumi ngokuthi uMama wayekulungile yini noma akulungile (ngomqondo wesiko), sikhuluma ngenye into. Mayelana nokuthi abantu bathanda kanjani ukuphazamisa ngokungahleliwe. Futhi ukuthi bakwenza njalo kaningi kunokuba kungenjalo ngezinhloso ezinhle, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi "akufanele kube njalo", kodwa "kufanelekile".
Uma ufuna ukunikeza ingane ukuba ikhule futhi ikhule, kuzodingeka ufunde ukumelana nombono womphakathi. Ama-stencil, imikhuba, imithetho yesikhathi eside esidlule, umbono wabathile abadlula, abanakho konke okwenzayo nakho konke.
Kulula ukwamukela ukukhala okuvela esangweni, kungcono ukucabanga ngekhanda lakho. Kodwa kufanele ucabange kusengaphambili noma mayelana nemiphumela. Ngendlela, ingane izokwazi futhi ukufunda ukucabanga kuqala, bese wenza (ukukhuphuka, ukugijima, ukugijima, ukugxuma ...).
"Cha."
Njengamanje iya ku matasa wakhe ngento ingane yakho umtshele (noma wakhe) "Ningayi ekhishini ..." Ungaqiniseka ukuthi amaminithi 15 elilandelayo ingane yakho ikhombisa lapho. Ucabanga, ngaphandle kokulimala? Ayikho inhlobo, "izindlebe" zakhe azikho.
Noma yikuphi ukuvinjelwa kwethu i-psyche ihlangana nobutha. Futhi ukulalela nokulalela (ngisho nangaphezulu ukuze sikwazi kahle), kufanele senze umzamo, ukuzithumela ngokwethu "Angifuni - angiyikukwenza."
Khumbula ukuthi ulaka kangakanani ekuvinjweni emndenini wakho noma emsebenzini. Futhi kunzima nakakhulu ukuba izingane zenze umzamo onjalo (uma nje ngoba zingabantu abanothando). Ngakho kuvela: sithi "Cha! Awukwazi! ", Futhi ingane ayilungele ukusizwa, une" ubhanana ezindlebeni zakhe. " Sithi "ungenzi," futhi uzwile "yenza, futhi maduzane ..."
Ngemibuzo ephikisayo, ngesizathu esithile, kwenzeka into efanayo: izingane, ngisho nokuqonda kwakho, ziyakhathaza kakhulu, ngoba azidingi impendulo. Intsha evuthayo ikakhulukazi, lapho kusuka ngaphansi kombuzo wakho into enobungozi futhi engavumelekile ibonakala sengathi "Nginitshela ngesiRussia: kungakanani ?! .."
- Zama ukwakha imishwana ukuze uyenze ngaphandle kokuthi "cha", "cha" futhi "akunakwenzeka."
- Gwema imibuzo ephikisayo (ikakhulu uma unenkinga embi).
- Qaphela-ukukhalipha ngamazwi angacabangi, ngokuvamile kubonakala njengendlela yokukhetha lolu hlobo lwe-puncturing eyinkimbinkimbi kanye nokuthukuthela, ikakhulukazi kwentsha (kakade ayingaqiniseki ngokwabo).
- Futhi uma usadingeka ukuthi cha, phuza iphilisi ...
Ngakho-ke, inkulumo yakho kufanele ibe nenhle futhi ikhonkolo, inomusa, kodwa ingacabangi.
Phinda ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Noma yiluphi ulwazi olusha lufika enkumbulweni yesikhathi esifushane. Kulapho kugcinwa cishe izinsuku ezintathu, bese kuthiwa isuliwe, noma ishintshe kwimemori yesikhathi eside, okungukuthi, izokhunjulwa, futhi isikhathi eside sesivele sesivele.
- lapho ulwazi lukhanya, ngokomzwelo;
- uma umuntu ephinda, uyabuyela kuwo. Lokhu kubonakala sengathi uthi ebuchosheni: kuyofika ngokuhle, kubalulekile, khumbula!
Okufanelekile, kufanele kube njengale: Ngazi kahle indaba entsha, ngase ngiyiphinda: izinsuku ezintathu kamuva, ngesonto kamuva, inyanga kamuva. Futhi ukuphindaphinda kufanele kwenzeke ngezindlela ezahlukene: kuyathakazelisa futhi akulibaleki! Ngokufanayo - ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Isibonelo, mayelana ne-flying agaric efanayo eyingozi:
- utshele;
- wabonisa indlela eyaziwa ngayo ngokuziqhenya ehlathini, njengento enhle, kodwa akekho ohlala ehlathini oyidla, hhayi ngisho nezibungu;
- waphendula imibuzo ngesihloko (ngokufishane, ngaphandle kwezinkulumo);
- wabonisa encwadini, esithombeni;
- babhala inganekwane;
- wadlala "sorceress omubi, opheka ama-fly agarics futhi ...";
- eqoshiwe futhi ephawula;
- wabuza lo mbuzo ngesikhathi esifanele (uma, ngokwesibonelo, embonini yemidwebo yamakhowe anezipho ezibomvu), njll.
- bakhulume futhi baxoxisana-futhi bavumele ukuba kube yingxoxo (ikakhulukazi nabafundi besikole esiphakeme).
Ngokufanayo - ngokuqhubekayo, kancane kancane, ukujula nokubuyela esikhathini esedlule - sidinga ukukhuluma ngezinto eziyinkimbinkimbi. Ingane ikhula, kodwa imithetho ayishintshi. Banezela kuphela futhi banwetshiwe, ama-subpoints amasha azovela, ama-twist amasha aphenduke, kodwa isisekelo sinye.
Tshela izindaba.
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuletha okuthile kumntwana ukuyidlala, ukuhlala kulo mdlalo zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga ukuthi umuntu omncane angangena. Noma tshela inganekwane, lapho ezimweni ezinjalo ziwela izinhlamvu ezinhle, okungenzeka ukuthi ingane, mhlawumbe, engazi lutho, iyalandisa yona.
Source: ihappymama.ru