Amene adakumana ndi kuperekedwa kwa mwamuna wake, afotokoze momwe akumvera m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Bingu pakati pa thambo, kuchokera pamoto kupita kumoto, ngati ululu pamutu, panalibenso kanthu koti kupuma, ndi zina zotero. Koma onse amavomereza kuti kusokonezeka koteroko ndi chimodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri pa moyo wa mkazi wachikondi. Kusakhulupirika, kupondereza kunyada, kukangana, misonzi, kusudzulana - mndandanda womvekawu ukhoza kupitilira kwamuyaya. Ndipo chochita chotsatira?
Kusanthula Mkhalidwe: Kodi mwamuna akunyenga kwenikweni?
Choyamba, onetsetsani kuti ichi ndi chiwombankhanza, osati kungoyang'ana masewera omwe amakopedwa ndi nsanje yanu yowopsya. Kulimba ndi mphamvu, koma monga umboni, umboni ndi chinthu chopanda phindu. Inde, ambiri a iwo akusintha. Koma kodi mwamuna wanu alidi wogwirizana ndi izi?
Kuyenera anachenjeza kuti kukumba mu foni, imelo ndi matumba a mwamuna wake - ntchito, mwina chidwi, koma matope pambuyo zambiri amakhalabe onyansa. Zaka zikwi zingaganize musanayankhe mayankho a mafunso anu mwanjira yotere - mwina simungakonde!
Koma apa, monga mu khoti chigawenga: kutenga nkhani ndi yanditsutsa, m'pofunika kuti akaone yonena za umboni: kuona mmene mwamuna kumapsyopsyona mbuye wake, kuwerenga makalata awo kapena kulira eavesdrop. Kupanga malingaliro pazoganiziridwa sizosangalatsa. Chimodzi mwa osati mapulogalamu aukazitape, koma nthawi zina imathandiza njira ya "kufufuza" - ". Pamphumi" funso Mwina mwamuna wanu angapeze mayankho ogwira mtima ku mafunso anu.
Mwamva zokambirana:
Msungwanayo akudandaula kwa bwenzi lake.
- Tangoganizirani, ndinawerenga ma SMS awo! Ndinazindikiranso ndi nambala ya foni yemwe anali, ndikupeza kumene akukhala komanso dzina lake lotchedwa galu lake. Anamuponyera panja, koma iye amasula, akunena kuti sakudziwa chinthu choterocho, ndipo palibe chomwe chikanawachitikira!
Atakhala patali bambo wachikulire wa abwenzi:
- Wachita bwino munthu! Nthawi zonse muyenera kukana! Osatsutsana!
Konzekerani kuti simungamve choonadi, ngakhale mutatsimikiza kuti pali mdani. Chochita pa nkhaniyi, pamene bodza liri mlengalenga, ndipo mchira sungachipeze?
Ganizirani choyamba, ganizirani chifukwa chake zinachitikira, kaya chiwembu chinali nthawi imodzi. Kumene, kumvetsa vuto, n'zomveka kokha pamene muli wokonzeka kukhululuka mwamuna ndi kukhala naye kapena achinansi, koma mukadali mu kukayika. Ndipo sikulongosola kapena kuweruza ena mwa inu. Wodzisunga chinyezimiro kuthetsa chidani ndi sanamwe kudzachititsa moyo wanu otetezeka mu mwambo chilekano, ndi ngati "choyendera" kumbali adzakhululukidwa. Mulimonsemo, chisankho chomaliza chili bwino pamutu wozizira.
Kotero, chifukwa chiyani mwamuna anasintha ndikupitiriza kusintha?
Anasankha kuti asokonezedwe ndi mavuto m'banja. Kawirikawiri, mavuto am'banja amayendetsa mwamuna kwa mbuye wake, monga oasis, kasupe m'chipululu chachikulu cha mavuto. Kunyumba, mkazi wake "saws", ntchito, ntchito, mavuto a mnyumba, mwakamodzi, atangofika kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito.
Koma mbuyeyo alibe zodandaula ndi mikangano, koma chikondi ndi zokondweretsa zokha. Ayenera kumasuka ndi kusokoneza, ndipo kugonana muukwati wotere kumakhudza chabe, osati chifukwa.
Ndinayamba kukondana. Iwo anakumana mwadzidzidzi ndi mosayembekezereka, ndipo panabuka kumveka kwakukulu. Chifukwa cha chidziwitso chofulumira, ubale wawo unayambitsa kugonana. Izi zikhoza kukhala zowonongeka za malingaliro, osati ubale wokhazikika komanso wautali.
Zosankha: Ndinakumana ndi sukulu yanga, chikondi chachikondi, bwenzi langa lachinyamata kuchokera ku msasa wapainiya kapena ngakhale sukulu ya kindergarten. Pomwe munthu yemwe kale anali kumukonda ankamuona, maganizo ake anadzutsidwa.
Ndatengedwera. Apa chirichonse chimabwera mpaka cholinga cha kugona. mdani wanu si chidwi monga munthu, iwo ngakhale kulankhula kwenikweni za zomwe, koma chithunzi ake, zovala ndi khalidwe lofanana ndi mkazi wake abwino ndi kudzutsa kukhumbira kugonana izo.
Ndili ndi ndege yopuma. Nthawi zonse amakhala wokonzeka kukhalapo, osapempha chilichonse. Iye akhoza kukhala pansi pano, chifukwa nyumba ndi mvula yamkuntho, mvula ndi nyengo zina zopanda kuwuluka.
Ndinamvanso kuti ndine wamng'ono komanso wonyengerera. Amuna akuopa kuti azikalamba kwambiri kuposa momwe ife tilili. Pambuyo pazaka zambiri za moyo wa banja, amasamala za lingalirolo, koma ngati wina aliyense akulira panyumba yake. Choncho, pakadali pano, kunyoza ndi masewera a kudzidalira komanso kudzidalira. Izi ndizochitika zokha zomwe sizimayambitsa maubwenzi a nthawi yaitali, chifukwa chidwi chawo ndizochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Simungathe ngakhale kuphunzira za kusakhulupirika koteroko.
Ndinaganiza zogonjetsa. Izi zili ndi masewera oterewa. Mwachitsanzo, ku Middle Ages, nyumba zakunja zinagonjetsedwa. Zamasewera - amafika m'mabuku. A udindo mu masewera phokoso, mwina: ngwazi m'mudzi kwambiri kugonana kapena chigawo ngwazi mu kulumpha pa madona yakunja. Anthu oterewa amakwaniritsa zolinga zawo kuti apambane, amafunikira ndondomeko ya golide. Palibe vuto lililonse la chiyankhulocho: iwo amangoganiza kuti anthu amatsutsa.
Ndine wotopa. Zonse ziri zabwino ndi zabwino kunyumba. Ndipo Lovelace akufuna "borsch" mu menyu yachizolowezi ya msuzi. Njira yabwino yosinthira "zakudya" ndiyo kusankha mbuye. Msonkhano uliwonse ndizochitika, amakonzekera ndikudikirira mosayembekezereka. Zokondedwa ndi makhalidwe aumwini a chilakolako - kumbuyo, chifukwa kugonana uku - basi mchere. Kulumikizana kwa nthawi yaitali sizingatheke, kugonana koteroko kumakhala kosautsa.
Iye ndi wotsutsa. Anangozoloŵera kukhala ndi ambuye, ziribe kanthu kaya zinali zabwino bwanji kapena zoipa zomwe zinali pakhomo. Musayang'ane malingaliro pano - ndizofunika kwenikweni.
Zikomo chifukwa cha chinachake. Sikuti amai okha amatha kugona ndi munthu woyamikira! Mwina mdaniyo amamuthandiza mu bizinesi, mu bizinesi, kapena kumuthandiza pa nthawi yovuta. Chabwino, bwanji kuti musabwezere? Makamaka ngati wothandizira ali wokongola! Kugonana pa nkhaniyi kumakhala ngati malipiro a ntchito, koma, ndithudi, sasiya kusakhulupirika.
Kukoma - kukondana kwamtchito. Amamuwona nthawi zambiri kuposa inu - maola ochuluka pa tsiku. Choncho mwachangu ndikusokoneza malingaliro, kukulira mu buku. Ogwira nawo ntchito nthawi zambiri amakhala alembi omwe ali okonzeka kukhutiritsa chokhumba chilichonse cha bwana, kapena mosiyana. Koma kawirikawiri awa ndi antchito aakazi achichepere omwe amayenda mozungulira zovala zosayenera komanso osapatsa mpumulo kwa anthu osauka osakhazikika.
Ndinaganiza zopusitsa. Ngati mwamukhumudwitsa kapena kumukhumudwitsa, okhulupirika akhoza kubwezera mwa kuchita chiwembu. Zomwezo zikhoza kuchitika ngati mutasintha choyamba - chabwino, apa kupeza cholakwika ndi mwamuna wanu ndiko kusalungama kwathunthu! Nkhani yosankhidwa kubwezera sikugwirizana nthawi zonse. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti iye ndi mkazi. Munthu yemwe amadzibweretsera yekha mwa njira iyi kuti asungidwe chakukhosi, amawoneka ngati khate losautsika: ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zimapitira patsogolo, koma amangolipira ngongole za wolakwira.
Amapereka chisudzulo. Ngati banja lanu liri ngati ntchito, ndipo simungathe kuyisaka, ndiye kuti chiwonongeko chingakhale udzu wotsiriza mu chidebe chodzaza. Mbuye wasankhidwa kuti akhale ndi zolinga zotero angathe kukhala nthawi yodziwikiratu ndipo wolowa m'malo mwanu akhale mkazi.
Chochita ngati mwamuna akusintha - malangizo a katswiri wa zamaganizo
Chimene sichiyenera kuchita:
• Zowonongeka za "walker" - msewu womalizira. Ngati mulibe mkodzo kuti musunge maganizo anu, muwatsanulire pa - atapindula, pamapeto pake. Koma zowonongeka nthawi zonse, chifukwa cha kukangana, kukonzekera zina - izi zikutanthawuza kuwononga moyo poyamba payekha. Inde, ndi ana, ngati muli nawo.
• Mukufuna kulira! Koma musayese kusokoneza mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo kwa ena, abwenzi, achibale, ndipo, chofunikira kwambiri, ana.
Mulimonsemo, musamayang'ane ambuye, "yang'anani yemwe adasinthanitsa nawo," musabwezere choipa ndipo musapangitse zolakwika.
• Kubwezera mwamuna wanu ndikumukonza "mobwezera" - chilakolako chofala. Koma thupi lake silidzangokhala chete, koma lidzakwiyitsanso ziwanda zako zamkati.
• Kwa omwe mayi awo amakonda kubwereza: "Ndipo ndinakuuzani!" - Mulimonsemo kuti musapite kwa amayi anga!
Zimene mungachite:
• Fufuzani chithandizo kuchokera kwa achibale, abwenzi, ndipo pitirizani kupwetekedwa ndi thandizo lawo.
• Lankhulani, mverani malangizo, bwerani ku malingaliro anu.
• Ngati pali mwayi, panthawi yomwe mukuganiza kuti mukukhala ndi mwamuna wake mosiyana. Kulimbikitsa kotereku kudzakutetezani kuti musamaganize bwino. Ndipo ngati mutachoka kwinakwake kwa kanthawi, mutha kuganiza mofatsa chifukwa cha chisankho chanu: kupha kapena kukhululukira.
Ngati mwamuna amasintha: kuchita kapena kukhululukira?
Tangoganizirani mamba awiri. Pa zaka zakubadwa zokhala limodzi, banja losangalatsa, lapamtima lapamtima, tsogolo lamtendere. Pachiwiri - kunyozetsa, kunyozetsa ndi kulira kwathunthu kwa zenizeni zenizeni ndi kusakhulupirika. Sankhani zomwe zidzachitike. Mwina kapu yoyamba idzakhala yodzaza kwambiri. Kapena wachiwiri adzakhala wopanda nzeru kotero kuti simungathe kuyang'ana munthu uyu ndikumukumbukira.
Chikho choyamba choyimira. Ngati khalidwe lanu labwino lachititsa kuti mwamuna wanu asakhulupirire, ndipo amanong'oneza bondo ndikudzipereka ndi kulumbira kuchokera tsopano kukhulupirika kwamuyaya, ndiye muli ndi mwayi watsopano. Kumbukirani chinthu chimodzi: kukhululukira wokwatirana ndikuiwala kusakhulupirira kwake - malingaliro awiri osiyana. Kodi mungathe kukhulupirira mwamuna wanu ndi kubwezeretsa chiyanjano chanu, mutakhala ndi katundu mumtima mwanu ndi kukumbukira?
Chikho chachiwiri chophiphiritsira. Ngati mukumvetsa kuti kupepesa kwa mwamuna ndi misozi, kapena amakonda ambuye, mwinamwake simungamukhululukire, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kugawana nawo, mwinamwake kulemetsa kwa kusakhululuka kukuphwanya ndi kukupwetekani inu nonse.
Mayankho a mafunso omwe ali, omwe mwamuna wawo amasintha
Tidzakayankha mafunsowa pamutu womwe nthawi zambiri amafunsidwa m'mabwalo ndi ndemanga.
• Bwanji ngati mwamuna wanga nthawi zonse amasintha ine?
Ngati mukudziwa kuti mwamuna ndi wolakwira, muyenera kumvetsa kuti izi zidzakhala choncho nthawi zonse. Monga akunena, nchiyani chingathe kukonza nsomba? Inu mukudziwa yankho. Choncho, pali njira ziwiri zomwe mungasankhire: kaya mumathetsa mwamuna wanu, kapena khalani okonzeka kupirira moyo wanu wonse. Ndi zopusa kukhulupirira kuti paliponse kupepesa ndi chisoni, ngati wolakwayo mobwerezabwereza akubwereza "zopanda pake, zopanda pake, zopanda pake".
• Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwamuna wanga akubera, koma sakufuna kuchoka?
Ngati wogulitsayo ali bwino, ganizirani zomwe zimamusunga kunyumba? Chikondi kwa inu ndi ana? Kuopa kupita "kulikonse" kapena kusatsimikizika za mdani wanu? Mu mkhalidwe uno, muyenera kuganiza: Ndani mwa inu ali ndi moyo wabwino komanso wokondweretsa. Kodi chinachake chimagwira ndi mwamuna ameneyo?
• Ndingatani ngati mwamuna wanga akubera pa intaneti?
Zimapezeka kuti amuna amakhala okonda, okonda kapena okondana ndi atsikana aang'ono a intaneti. Kwa ena zikuwoneka kuti akupereka, ena samatero, koma zenizeni zowonankhulana kotero zimakhala zokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Ngati ndinu woyamba, mupatseni mwayi mwamuna kuti mudziwe zomwe zilembozi zimatanthauza kwa iye, chifukwa chake akutsogolera komanso ngati akuwona kuti ndizofunikira. Kusankha kwina kuli bwino kuvomereza zotsatira za zokambiranazo: ndi ndani yemwe angafunike kuthetsa ubale - ndi inu kapena naye.
Chochita ngati mwamuna akusintha: mmalo mwa chidule
Chifukwa chokha chakuti kusudzulana ndiloledwa malinga ndi Uthenga Wabwino ndi chigololo. Koma ngakhale mpingo sungapereke chigamulo chokhazikitsa chisamaliro chotsutsana ndi chigamulo, ngati palibe wansembe kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo angapereke malangizo otere, omwe okwatirana omwe akuyesera kusunga ukwati mwa njira iliyonse amabwera ku chipulumutso.
Palibe amene angakupangire chisankho ichi. Palibe mlangizi akhoza kukhala pomwepo, ngakhale atakhala mumkhalidwe wofanana.
Inde, chigwirizano ndi chowawa. Kusokoneza kumeneku, komwe kuyambira pano kudzagawanitsa malo kukhala "poyamba" ndi "pambuyo". Ena amatha kugwirizanitsa mbali ziwiri zonsezi, mwa ena, pakapita nthawi, vuto limangowonjezera, kusiya anthu kumbali zosiyanasiyana za phompho.
Wolemba F. Dostoyevsky kamodzi adanena kuti mu mtima wachikondi kapena nsanje, chikondi chimapha kapena chikondi chimapha nsanje.
Mvetserani kwa mtima wanu ndi malingaliro anu. Ndiwo okha alangizi anu odalirika.
Ngakhale kuti mwamunayo amachititsa kuti moyo wanu ukhale woyera ndi wakuda, sungani mbali yoyera ya chikondi kapena mumusiye munthu uyu nthawi zonse, kuti musakhalebe ndi chidaliro chosatha, mkwiyo, kunyoza ndi kukayikira.