Mphamvu ya banja
Ubwana wokondwa, komwe kuli amayi ndi abambo omwe angathe kuchita zonse padziko lapansi, kukondana wina ndi mzake ndi ife, amatipatsa zinthu zofunika kwambiri - chikondi chopanda malire ndi chitetezo, kuzindikira ndi chithandizo, osati aliyense amene anali nazo. Mwinamwake, mtsikana wachiwiri aliyense anali kulira ndi kufuula kwa amayi ake kuti: “Ndikadzakula, ndidzakhala mayi, ndipo sindidzakhala ngati inu. Zingakhale zabwino ngati mayi aliyense akumva kuti ndi wotetezeka komanso wodalirika padziko lapansi ndikupititsa kumverera uku kwa ana ake. "Mumakhala bwino nthawi zonse, dziko likhoza kukupatsani chilichonse chomwe mungafune. Ine ndi abambo tidzasamalira chilichonse, ndipo iwe ukula, msungwana wanga, khala mwana, udye chikondi ndi kusangalala ndi kusasamala. Koma pazifukwa zina amayi samanena zimenezo. Pambuyo pake, iye mwiniyo anali ndi amayi, ameneyo anali ndi ake, ndi zina zotero ad infinitum. Ndipo aliyense wa iwo - amayi, agogo aakazi, agogo aakazi - analeredwa kuchokera ku malingaliro awo okhudza dziko ndi anthu, za chabwino ndi cholakwika. Dongosolo la generic si chibadwa chokha komanso "maso ngati mayi". Ndilo cholowa champhamvu komanso chamalingaliro: zochitika, malingaliro amoyo, mantha ndi luso, zomwe zidachitika komanso ma gestatal osadziwika amadutsa mibadwomibadwo.
Kodi mumadziwa bwanji za makolo anu ndi makolo anu? Timayang'ana zithunzi zakuda ndi zoyera m'ma Albums, timayima kuti tikacheze. Timawadziwa monga mmene tinkaonera ubwana wathu wonse.
Kodi munaganizapo za momwe zimagwirizanirana ndi moyo? Agogo anakumana bwanji ndi agogo? Kodi moyo wawo unali wotani, ndi mavuto otani amene anakumana nawo, nanga bwanji kwenikweni? Munakonda ndani, munasankha chiyani, munachita chiyani ndipo chifukwa chiyani? Mabanja ndi mtengo umene ife tiri masamba ndi nthambi, ndipo makolo athu ndiwo mizu yathu. Ndipo ngati sitikumva kugwirizana ndi mizu, ndiye kuti timataya chithandizo choyambirira m'moyo, ndipo popanda izo sizingatheke kumva kukhazikika kwathu. Ndife chithunzithunzi cha makolo athu ku mibadwomibadwo, ndipo mudzadabwa kuti mumagwirizana bwanji ndi agogo anu ndi agogo anu aakazi.
Ndodo ndiye mphamvu zathu ndi malire athu. Ntchito ya amayi, abambo ndi dongosolo lonse la generic ndikuthandiza mwana kuyambitsa ntchito zake malinga ndi zomwe wakumana nazo. Kuvumbula mikhalidwe ya munthu imene ingamthandize kukulitsa kuthekera kwake mokwanira, kumva tsogolo lake mwachibadwa, osati mwa kudzifufuza mosalekeza. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ntchito ya generic system ndikukuthandizani kukumbukira nokha. Chifukwa chiyani mwabwera kuno, muli ndi luso lanji, ndinu chiyani komanso njira yanu. Ife tokha, ngakhale tisanabadwe, timasankha ma generic system omwe amagwirizana ndi ife komanso ntchito zathu. Izi siziri mwangozi, koma ntchito yachilengedwe ya dongosolo. Monga dongosolo lililonse, ilinso ndi malamulo ake.
Kodi jenda zimatikhudza bwanji?
Mwachitsanzo, chifukwa chakuti mungathe kubwereza zochitika za moyo wa agogo anu aakazi, khalani ndi zochitika zamaganizo zofanana ndi agogo anu, sankhani amuna malinga ndi zochitika za agogo anu aakazi. Umunthu wathu wakhazikika pa zipilala ziwiri - mwamuna ndi mkazi, pa amayi ndi abambo. Nthawi zambiri timagwira ntchito kudzera mwa makolo athu: timasanthula ubwana wathu ndi ubale wathu ndi iwo. Koma tikayamba kulowa mozama, timazindikira kuti makolo athu adatengeranso zochitika izi, mkhalidwewu, malingaliro awa a zenizeni.
Zimavomerezedwa kuti timasankha mphamvu ndi chikoka cha makolo athu mpaka m'badwo wachisanu ndi chiwiri. Koma m'malo mwake, zonse sizili zofananira, ndipo kuyambitsanso zofunikira pakukula kwanu kumatha kuchitika ngakhale kudzera mwa makolo omwe simukuwadziwa. Ndi zochitika ziti zomwe ndikunena? Mwachitsanzo, agogo aakazi ankakonda mwamuna wina, koma anali wokwatiwa. Anayang'anizana ndi kulephera kusankha ndipo anakhala moyo wake wonse ndikumverera kwa "chikondi ndi ululu, kusungulumwa kwamkati ndi mtima wosweka" komanso "Ndilibe ufulu wosankha." Pali zochitika zokakamizika, kumverera kwaudindo ndi kulakwa, kukhumudwa m'moyo, kutha kwa mphamvu. Munthawi imeneyi, ana amawonekera ndipo mosazindikira amatengera zomwe agogo awo amawulutsidwa.
Makolo anganene kuti: “Khala ndi moyo wogwirizana ndi mtima wako, mvera mawu ako amkati,” koma ngakhale mawu olekanitsa oyenerera ndi abwino kwambiri amasweka ndi chitsanzo chamoyo cha makolo amene sadzilola kukhala ndi moyo. Ana akupitiriza kuyang'ana ndikudikirira kukhumudwitsidwa - umu ndi momwe automatism yosazindikira imagwirira ntchito, mapangidwe a chikomokere chathu ndikubwereza zomwe zinachitikira makolo awo. Mwina mukukhala muzochitika pompano. Nthawi zonse muli ndi chisankho: pitilizani kapena musinthe.
N’cifukwa ciani timakonda kukamba zinthu zoipa mobwerezabwereza?
Kodi karma iyi imagwira ntchito? Padziko lonse, inde. Pali zochitika zomwe zimabwerezedwa kangapo, pali kuchuluka kwakukulu kwa malingaliro osadziwika mu dongosolo. Ndipo zonsezi zimasungidwa ndikudutsa ngati kukumbukira kwa thupi kuchokera ku mibadwomibadwo. Sitingathe kungotenga ndikuzindikira momwe takhala tikukhala kwa zaka zambiri komanso mibadwo yambiri. Koma ngati pali chinachake m'moyo wanu chomwe sichikugwirizana ndi inu - kaya ndi ubale wovuta ndi makolo anu, kusowa kwachuma, zovuta muubwenzi ndi amuna, kapena zimakuvutani kumanga malire anu kapena mumangosungulumwa - ichi ndi chizindikiro chakuti muli ndi mipata mu kayendedwe ka mphamvu.
Mwachidule, tiyeni tikumbukire kuti mawu oti "karma" mu Sanskrit amatanthauza "kuchita". Ndiko kuti, ndi chisonkhezero chomwe chimatikakamiza kuti tisinthe. Mwachitsanzo, kuperekedwa kwachitika kambirimbiri m’mafuko anu, ndipo tsopano mukukhala ndi mantha akuti mudzasiyidwa, kunyengedwa ndi kuperekedwa. Ndi Karma? Inde. Kukangana m'dongosolo kumapangitsa mantha awa ndikutchinga kukhala paubwenzi weniweni ndi anthu. Zimakupangitsani kukayikira aliyense ndikudzitsekera nokha kudziko lapansi. Ndiye pali njira ziwiri: pitilizani kudzitsekera kudziko lapansi kapena kudzizindikira nokha mkati mwazochitika zomwe zimawononga ndikukulepheretsani kukhala momasuka komanso mosangalala. Mchiritseni ndikukhala moyo wanu mosangalala.
Munthu angakwiye chifukwa chake makolo sakanatha kukhala ndi moyo wabwino ndikusankha njira ya chowonadi, koma amakhala mosasamala komanso mopotoza. Ndipo mutha kudzifunsa nokha funso: chifukwa chiyani ndili pano? Mwina kuti ndithandizire dongosolo langa kuchira ndikudzitengera ndekha chidziwitso chofunikira ichi? Mwina kuseri kwa zochitika izi kuli gwero langa lotseguka, ndipo ndikufuna kutsegula ngati mkazi, umunthu, moyo? Ndipo chifukwa chake, karma imatembenuka kuchoka ku chinthu choyipa ndi choyipa kukhala cholimbikitsa.
Momwe mungasinthire script ya moyo wanu
Kodi tiyenera kuopa karma? Ayi, chifukwa izi ndi zikhumbo za chitukuko chathu. Ngati tavomereza chinachake, ndiye kuti tikhoza kuchisintha. Funso lokha ndiloti ngati tingayesetse kupitako. Ganizirani zomwe mumadziwa bwino za dongosolo lanu, ndipo kodi pali zochitika zobwerezabwereza m'moyo wanu zomwe zimaperekedwa ngati "cholowa chosasankhidwa"?
Kenako, mukakhala ndi chidwi chamtundu wanu, ndi nthawi yoti mudzilowetse m'mabanja ndikukumana ndi banja. Khalani nokha ndi inu nokha, konzani malo abata omwe ali omasuka kwa inu, opanda phokoso komanso otetezeka. Tsekani maso anu, yang'anani zamkati mwanu, ndipo ingoyang'anani mpweya wanu kwa kanthawi kuti mulowe mozama mu kusinkhasinkha. Imvani kumbuyo kwa phewa lakumanzere akazi onse ndi kumbuyo kwa phewa lakumanja amuna onse amtundu wanu. Ndodo ndi mapiko athu, chithandizo chomwe chimatitsogolera m'moyo. Mkazi aliyense ndi mwamuna aliyense m'banja ali ndi nkhani yakeyake, zochitika zawo, ndipo onse amalumikizana. Ngati mukuwona kuti kugwirizana kwasweka kwinakwake, bwezeretsani ndikukumva. Pamene mukumva ulusi uliwonse womwe umakumangitsani, thokozani chifukwa chomwe muli komanso chomwe muli. Kupatula apo, aliyense ndi maphunziro ake, zomwe adakumana nazo zimakupangani kukhala choncho. Mwina mtundu wina wa ululu udzawuka mwa inu, lankhulani kwa aliyense amene umatchula, mpaka ku chiyeretso ndi chikhululukiro.
Mchitidwewu umakupatsani mwayi wosiya madandaulo ena, kukhazikitsa kulumikizana ndi makolo anu ndikutengapo gawo limodzi kuti mumasulidwe ku zochitika zachibadwidwe. Tsopano kuti mutha kuwona bwino nkhani yanu ndi zolemba zanu, kumverera kulumikizidwa ndi banja lanu, mwayamba kale kusintha moyo wanu kukhala wabwino.
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