Sikuti aliyense angathe kusunga ubale wautali ndi wachimwemwe. Monga lamulo, choyamba chirichonse chiri chabwino, makamaka ngati kumverera kumachokera ku chilakolako. Komabe, patapita kanthawi kuuma kwawo kudutsa, munthu amayamba kuchita mwaulere, osangoganizira za momwe wokondedwa wake amadziwira. M'nkhaniyi, tizitchula zinthu zisanu zomwe zingasokoneze mgwirizano uliwonse.
1. Kunama kungathe kuwononga ngakhale ubale wamphamvu kwambiri. Ngakhale zitakhala zabwino, sizikhala bwino. Kunama nthawi zonse kumayambitsa kusakhulupirika, komwe kumayambitsa kuwononga chiyanjano, choncho nkofunika kukhala woona mtima ndi theka lanu lachiwiri, komanso kuphunzira kuphunzira mokwanira choonadi.
Vuto ndilo bodza kwa inu nokha. Yesetsani kudziyankhira nokha mafunso awa: kodi mwakonzeka kukhala ndi munthu moyo wanu wonse, kodi mukufuna kudzipereka nokha ku maubwenzi awa? Yankho lolondola lingakuthandizeni kuti mukwaniritse ubale wabwino.
2. Komanso, musayese kusintha wokondedwa wanu. Kumbukirani kuti anthu abwino samangokhalako. Muyenera kukumbukira za malingaliro monga makhalidwe ndi zizoloŵezi. Zinthu zina zomwe munthu sangathe kusintha, ziribe kanthu momwe angasangalale nazo. Kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, anthu ambiri amasamala zinthu zina, koma m'tsogolomu sizili zoyenera. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, kuyesera koteroko sikungapangitse chabwino chirichonse.
3. Kumbukirani kuti kunyozedwa kwa anthu sikunayenera. Sikofunika kupeza mgwirizano pakati pa malo ammudzi, kuti musadzichititse manyazi kapena nokha. Kuyesera kwanu kunyoza pagulu kapena kumunyozetsa wokondedwa kumabweretsa mfundo yakuti ndi inu amene mudzaseka. Ngakhale munthu atachita chinthu chowopsya, musamamudzudzule pagulu, kubwereranso mpaka mutakhala nokha. Komabe, ndipo musapitirire. Mkwatulo ukhoza kukhala mbali yochezera chisangalalo, koma apa pali malamulo. Simungathe kuwoloka mzere, kumunyoza mnzanuyo, kuika cholakwa chanu pamwamba pake. Icho chimadziwika kuti chinthu chachikulu mu kugonana ndi kulowerera.
4. Nthawi zambiri kugonana kumakhala chete. Ngati pali vuto, liwuzani mokweza. Ngati simukukonda chinachake, nenani. Kumbukirani kuti chifungulo cha thanzi labwino ndikutanthauzira kwina kulikonse, komabe, mopanda malire. Moyo wanu mungathe kutsanulira atsikana anu. Ndipo ndi munthu kuphunzira kuphunzira malingaliro momveka ndi momveka bwino, kupeŵa mtima momwe tingathere.
5. Nsanje iwononga ubale uliwonse. Wina amakhulupirira kuti nsanje ndizisonyezero za chikondi, ena amawoneka ngati chisonyezero cha kudzikonda, mtima wosayamika. Koma chifukwa cha nsanje, mulimonsemo, anthu awiri amavutika: amodzi amakayikira chinachake, ndipo wina amanyozedwa chifukwa chosakhulupirira. Pofuna kuthana ndi izi, muyenera kukhala oona mtima ndi mnzanuyo.
Ndikofunika kudziwa kuti chikondi chimachokera pa kudalira ubale. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala ndi malo ake, mum'lemekeze. Ngakhale powerenga masamu a mnzanuyo, mukhoza kuwononga maubwenzi omwe amawoneka olimba kwambiri.