Uninzi luvile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukunika iwotshi, kodwa bambalwa abanokuthi kutheni. Ngapha koko, lo mqondiso unamabali aliqela emvelaphi, kodwa isisombululo sengxaki sinye. Siza kuthetha ngaye kamva.
Ivela phi le nkolelo?
Kukho ezimbini iinguqulelo eziphambili zemvelaphi yalo mqondiso. Kwizithethe zaseNtshona, izandla zamehlo zilingana nezinto ezibukhali, oko kuthetha ukuba iilindi ziwela kwisigaba esifanayo sezipho ezingafunekiyo njengeemigu, iifolokhwe, izikiti kunye nezinye izinto zokusika.
Kukholelwa ukuba izipho ezinjalo zikhangela amandla angcolileyo, apho ngexesha lomnikelo linamathele kummkeli. Emva koko, oku kukukhokelela kwimingcipheko, okanye ukuxabana okukhulu nomniki-mali, de kube yintlupheko yobudlelwane. Ngokuphathelele izinto ezibukhali zisathethi "zinokunqumla ulonwabo" okanye "ukunciphisa ubuhlobo".
Ingqungquthela yesibini evumelekileyo yokuvalwa kukunika umlindo, weza kuthi evela eChina. Kudala ekubeni abantu baseTshayina benoluvo lokuba iwashi isimemo somngcwabo. Ewe, uphawu luyamangalisa, kodwa kunzima kuthi, baseYurophu, ukuba siqonde inkcubeko engummangaliso yaseMpuma.
Ukuchazwa kweenkolelo zamaShayina nazo zimbalwa. Omnye ucinga ukuba iwashi elinesipho liza kuqala ukubala ixesha ngaphambi kokuhlukana, kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa beka - uya kulwa nalo mntu ngonaphakade. Kwaye abanye banokuqinisekisa ukuba iwashi libala ukuya ekufeni kommkeli kwaye ilongela ubomi bakhe ngqo. EJapan, oku kungabonisa ukuba ufuna ukuba umntu afe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isicatshulwa esisabekayo.
AmaSlav aguqulelwe ngokwawo. Ngokutsho kweenkolelo, xa unika umlindi, uvelisa ebuntwini intlungu yomntu, ukungabikho nto, ukungonwabi kunye nokudumala. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ukunika umlindi kunika inxalenye yobomi bakho. Kudlalwa ukuba isipho esinjalo sisisombululo sabathandekayo, kwaye abanye bakholelwa kwindlela yokufa kommkeli.
Kutheni ungeke unike umlindo kumntu othandekayo?
Kukho amabali amaninzi ebantwini malunga nendlela abantu abanqabile ngayo ukubonisa iindwendwe kubathandekayo babo, kwaye kamva kwabangela ukuba bahlukane. Baye bathetha nge sibini apho intombazana yayilungiselela isipho eso kwiselula yayo, eyayingazange iphikisana nayo ngaphambili, kwaye emva koko, ukuxabana kwaqala ngokukhawuleza kulwalamano. Kodwa uthando lwalomelele ngakumbi: ngelixa lililo elinye labahlaseli bawela kuqala, baza bayeka ngokupheleleyo. Nangona, ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi, loo mveliso yayingaphantsi?
Ngubani ongadingi ukunika isipho esinjalo?
Ngaba ukholelwa kwiimpawu okanye kungenjalo, nokuba kunjani na, kungcono ukuba ungabonakali umlindo kwintombazana. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba abafazi banamathele kwizikholo, ngoko isipho esinjalo singabacaphukisa okanye sithintele iimoya zakho iintsuku ezimbalwa, ukuphoqele ukuba ucinge ngazo zonke izibonakaliso eziphazamisayo lonke ixesha.
Ukongeza, awukwazi ukuthenga umlindo wakho wokuzalwa. Abantu abaninzi (ukuba baneminyaka engaphezu kweshumi elinesine ubudala) bavame ukucaphukisa ngenxa yamatye ngaloo mini. Ngokuqinisekileyo unabangane ababukeka becinezelekile ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa. Ngoko, phakathi kwabo babonakala benovuyo, ubuncinane isiqingatha ngokwenene banoluvo oluvakalayo lokuba iintolo zobomi zikhawuleza.
Kwaye umntu omdala, mhlawumbi ucinga ngokuguga kwakhe kunye nokuhamba kwexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe. Musa ukumnika esinye isizathu sokukhumbula ukuba awukwazi ukubuyisela ulutsha. Ngendlela, ngaba ngumhla wokuzalwa abantu abaninzi banxulumanisa inkolelo malunga newashi elibala ixesha elifutshane lommkeli. Musa ukuthenga isipho esinjalo kubantu abadala okanye abagula kakhulu.
Kuthekani ukuba unomlindi?
Ngoko, siqikelele ukuba kutheni singakwazi ukunikela umlindi. Uya kuphinda ucinge kwakhona, ngaphambi kokubonisa isipho esinjalo kunoma ubani. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba unomlindi? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba akukho wonke umntu okholelwa kwimpawu, kodwa umntu uyazi ukuba awukwazi ukunikela umlindi. Mhlawumbi umntu akakaze akuve ngeli thembiso, ngoko ungammangaleli ukuba atyala zonke izono ezifa.
Khumbula ukuba kubalulekile kungekhona isipho, kubalulekile ukuhlawula. Le ndoda yayifuna ukukwenza uzive kakuhle, wayefuna isipho esihle kunye nesisipho esingazilahli kuso kwikhalalo elikude ukulikhumbula kanye ngonyaka. Abaninzi banomdla kakhulu kwisithethe sokunikela. Nangona isithunzi sokungabaza ebusweni bakho sinokuphazamisa loo mntu. Yamkela nayiphi na isipho ngokumomotheka kwaye uyabulela ngentliziyo.
Okwesibini, kwiimpawu ezihambelana nezipho, akukho nto ithetha ngokuthenga. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba unako ukuhlawulela isipho. Akukho mntu uthi kufuneka uhlawule lonke iindleko, kuya kuba neentente ezilishumi.
Kubonakala kwabaninzi ukuba enkulu intlawulelo, ingcono, kwaye bahlawulela isipho kwiibhanki ezinkulu. Kungcono ungayenzi loo nto. Ukuba kuphela ngenxa yokuba zonke iintlawulelo zesiko, ngokwamabali, zisebenza ngcono ngemali eziinkozo. Ungathatha iingqekembe ezimbalwa ngesandla, ungabalisi, kwaye unike nje umntu xa usamkela isipho. Ewe, kwaye intlawulelo enkulu yesipho ijongeka ingaqhelekanga-eyona nto iphambili yokupha iyancitshiswa ibe lilize. Ngcono ubonise umbulelo wakho ngobubele kunye nokutya okumnandi.
Ngubani onokunika umlindi?
Enyanisweni, yonke le miqondiso ayinaso isiqinisekiso sokwesayensi. Ukuba umntu neenkolelo, isipho esivela kudidi "esalelweyo" ungakwazi noba onakalise imo yakhe ukumbandakanya kuwe, okanye ukuba nimqumbise isiphumo auto-cebiso naziimbandezelo nomntu kuya kwenzeka kunjalo, nangona ibingasililo ityala lakho. Kodwa ukuba umntu akakholelwa kwiimpawu, ke into embi emva kwesipho esinjalo kunye naye akunakwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke.
Unokukhupha ukunika izipho abo, ngokomzekelo, ukuqokelela amawashi. Aba bantu baya kuvuyisiswa ngesipho. Ngeempawu, mhlawumbi bayazi, kodwa sele beqaphela ukuba umlindo onikeziweyo awunayo nayiphi na inzuzo. Ingaba kunjalo, abanye baya kukhetha ukuzithenga xa kunjalo.
Ukongeza, unokwenza into enjalo kumyeni wakho, umhlobo, umzalwana, utata, umphathi. Ngokuqinisekileyo uye wakuva malunga ne-watch watch, eyinto yesiko ukunika umkhosi kwimilinganiselo ekhethekileyo. Amadoda amaninzi awaphupha ngawo ukususela ebuntwaneni, kodwa akazange awamkele. Unako ukuthenga umlindo ngokwakho, kodwa oko akusikho konke ukufumana kubo njengesipho. Kwaye ukuba u-odityanwe nesicatshulwa sakho kwisifundo, awuyi kufumana ixabiso lesipho eso. Ngokuqhelekileyo impendulo yombuzo, kutheni ungamniki umlindo kumntu, uhlala esichengeni ukuba isipho sikhethwe ngamantombazana, kwaye loo mfana uya kuvuyela kakhulu ukufumana uncedo olunjalo.
Yiba njengoko kunjalo, zama ukucinga okungekho nto embi, kwaye ukuba iwashi elinikiweyo lisoyikisayo, hlawula umnikeli ngeemali ezimbalwa. Ukuba oku akunakunceda kwaye awukwazi ukulala ngokuthula, ucinga ngeentlekele ezizayo, sukela iwashi. Musa ukuyiphosa, yithengise kumntu.
Ngendlela, unokuthengisa ngayo yonke into efanayo yokuthengwa. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba isipho sibonakaliso lwenkathalo, uthando nothando, ukuze umntu onike lona angayi kukhululeka ukufunda ukuba awuyithandi isipho kakhulu.