Xa sasisebancinci, sachitha ixesha elininzi sicinga ngendlela esinokuphumelela ngayo ebomini. Kuqhelekile kulutsha ukuzama indawo enomdla, umvuzo ophezulu kunye noxanduva. Isimo sengqondo eluntwini, izihlobo, kunye nemizekelo yempumelelo yomnye umntu zikhokelwa ikakhulu koku. Kule minyaka idlulileyo, sihlala sifumana into echasene nale nto besiyiphupha ngaphambili, eyokuba uninzi lwethu, ngaphandle kwayo yonke imizamo kunye nempumelelo, luswele ulwaneliseko lokwenyani kunye nokuzazi. Ababaninzi abantu abathetha ngale nto, kodwa naphakathi kwabaphathi abaphezulu baninzi abaphoxeke ngokunzulu yimisebenzi yabo. Bajonge ngasemva kwaye baqonde ukuba abafumananga into ebalulekileyo, abayiqondanga, abaziqondi, kwaye ixesha kubonakala ngathi lidlulile. Ngaba ixesha lihambile ukuqala?
Zibuze: Ngaba ubuxakekile uzama ukufezekisa iziphumo ezithile kwaye uchukumise abanye abantu kangangokuba ulahlekelwe ngumbono wento oyithandayo? Ngaba okwangoku uziva uphoxekile okanye uzisole malunga nokuba ngowuphi umkhombandlela kwikhondo lomsebenzi owakha walithatha? Njani ngoku, enzulu, uyichaze impumelelo, kwaye uyazi ukuba ungayifumana njani indlela eya kuyo?
Ukuqonda apho ungathanda ukufudukela khona ngoku kwaye kweyiphi indawo ukuze uziqonde, kufuneka uthathe inyathelo ubuye umva kwaye uphinde ujonge indlela oyihambileyo, uqonda ukuba zonke izigqibo zakho luxanduva lwakho. Baninzi kakhulu abavakalelwa kukuba bangamaxhoba emisebenzi yabo, nangona bebenolawulo olukhulu kuyo. Ukufumana kwakhona olu lawulo (okanye okokuqala ukubona ukuba unayo), kuya kufuneka ujonge indlela oziphethe ngayo kwezi zinto zintathu ziphambili: ukuzazi, ukukwazi ukucinga ngokunzulu, ukukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva ngobomi bakho .
Ukuqonda ukubanakho kwakho kufuna ukubonwa kunye nokuziphatha okuthile, kodwa konke kuqala ngokuzazi ngokwakho. Ngaba awungekhe uchaze kuphela amandla akho, kodwa nobuthathaka bakho? Uninzi lwethu lubazi kakuhle apho bomelele khona, kodwa bayabufihla ubuthathaka babo nakuthi. Kubalulekile ukuba ububone obu buthathaka, kulapho amanqaku akho okukhula anokufihla khona. Ukuzisebenzisa kufuna ubulumko kunye nokuzimisela ukujongana nabo obo buthathaka kunye noloyiko uninzi lwenu olusetyenziselwa ukungahoyi. Khumbula, abo bafunde ukutshintsha, beqonda iimpazamo zabo, abasayi kuze bayeke ukonwabisa abanye kwaye bothuse abanye ngomzekelo wabo.
Nje ukuba uwazi amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka, umceli mngeni wakho olandelayo kukufumanisa ukuba uyonwabele ngokwenene into oyenzayo. Yintoni umsebenzi wephupha? Ihambelana njani nale nto uyenzayo ngoku? Abantu abaninzi mhlawumbi abazi ukuba ziziphi izinto abazithandayo, okanye bajonge kakhulu kwiingcinga ezisoloko zisenziwa ukuze benze umsebenzi ongalunganga. Ubulumko obuqhelekileyo malunga nomtsalane wemisebenzi ethile buhlala butshintsha. Kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini eyadlulayo, uqoqosho kunye nobuchwephesha bezomthetho babuthathwa njengongenisa imali kunye nodumo, kodwa namhlanje abagcini zincwadi kunye namagqwetha amaninzi ayaqonda ukuba mhlawumbi enze ukhetho oluphosakeleyo phantsi koxinzelelo loluntu.
Ukwaziswa kokuqwalaselwa kwakho akwanele. Impumelelo kwicandelo lakho elikhethiweyo linokufezekiswa ngokuqonda ukuba yeyiphi na imisebenzi ebalulekileyo kwimpumelelo. Kuvakala kulula ukuba buhlungu, kodwa uninzi, nasemva kokusebenza iminyaka emininzi kwicandelo elithile, alunakho ukubiza amanyathelo amathathu okanye amane abaluleke kakhulu aya kuthi aqinisekise impumelelo yabo emsebenzini okanye kwishishini. Ke ngoko, ukuba ucinga ngokutshintsha intsimi yomsebenzi, misela into ekufuneka uyazi ukuze uphumelele, kwaye emva koko zibuze, ukuba ukulungele kangakanani, uzithanda kangakanani ezi njongo kunye nezi njongo?
Wonke umntu unamahla ndenyuka ebomini, iintsuku ezintle nezingalunganga, iiveki neenyanga. Wonke umntu ujongene nokusilela. Umntu washiya izicwangciso zabo, ejongene nobunzima. Banokuthelekiswa nabahambi abaphambukile endleleni kwaye bengenathemba lokufika ekhaya. Inxeba labo lengqondo libuhlungu kakhulu kuba bazenzele bona. Khumbula, akukho mntu unokukuyekisa ukufikelela kumandla akho, kufuneka uchaze nje iphupha lakho, uphuhlise izakhono eziyimfuneko ukuze ulifezekise, kwaye ubonise umlinganiswa ekufezekiseni injongo. Kuya kufuneka ube nesibindi sokuthatha amanyathelo, uphinde uvavanye kwakhona izicwangciso zakho kwaye wenze uhlengahlengiso ukuze uhambe kwindlela ebonisa kuphela ukuba ungubani.
Ndandineminyaka engama-45 ubudala xa ndatshintsha ngokupheleleyo ubomi bam, ndishiya isikhundla esihlawulelwayo ngenxa yomsebenzi omtsha. Ngaba yayisoyikisa? Ewe! Kodwa namhlanje, xa kudlule iminyaka eli-17, ndiyaqonda ukuba kuya kuba kubi ngakumbi ukuphila loo minyaka ndingazifumani.
Ndineminyaka engama-62, ndaba ngukumkanikazi kukhuphiswano lobuNzululwazi boBuhle noPhuhliso, olwalukhokelela kwimisitho emitsha. Kwaye kuyamangalisa! Ukuhlala kumdla lulonwabo olukhulu. Kwaye iyafumaneka kuye wonke umntu. Ukuzonwabisa okuncinci, isibindi esincinci kunye nokuzithemba, kunye nobomi buya kuza buhlangule. Ziphose kuyo! Esi sisiqalo nje!
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