What is more important - mind or beauty? Luck or hard work? Kindness or assertiveness? We always argue that it will lead to happiness and success, and we study the stories of successful people under a magnifying glass. And even more surprised that the neighbor Masha, the former three-year-old, perfectly settled in the capital. Although neither education nor beauty, she did not shine (as it seemed to us), but she knew her own worth.
Psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky calls the main ingredient of such success - a good self-esteem, and calls at last to fall in love with himself and throw a bad habit with someone to compare.
Self-concept
Self-esteem beats everything: beauty - external and especially internal; broad education; an extraordinary mind; talents and abilities; muscles and money.
Self-esteem compensates for everything: if there is no special beauty, education and talents, but a man is infinitely in love with himself and does not doubt (and absolutely rightly) in his uniqueness and charm - he will definitely be happier and stronger than smart, beautiful and even rich.
High self-esteem beats everything!
For example, you are a stunning blonde. Legs, eyelashes - as it should. But if at the same time you, even if deep down, are sure that your nose is too large and your butt is too small, you lost beforehand a long-legged, crooked, but confident brown-haired woman with a microscopic breast. Because both the figure and the clothes only make sense if they are attached to a good relationship with themselves.
Or you have a mind in your ward, but you feel that you need the second or even the third education in order to sort out something else (and erase the nose to the employer, and to the first husband who once called you stupid) - you lost beforehand to anyone the former troechnik, who without any doubts and a twinge of conscience presents himself as a high specialist.
If you bake the children the most delicious in the world of pastry, carry any children in the sea, read it aloud, on Tuesdays talk to them in English, on Wednesdays in Chinese, and on Saturdays in French, but for some reason, consider yourself a bad mother (for example, your mother in law this was reported) and live with a constant feeling of guilt for nevyglazhennye shorts, you really lose (but for fun) drinking Mothers, which for the first time in six months to make time to take her daughter to the zoo and bought her ice-cream cone. And the children, by the way, feel it - that my mother is depressed, she's always in a guilty conscience and unhappy.
Love yourself, in the end.
Train in this, approve, forgive, spoil and do not compare yourself with anyone.
Never.
Source: ihappymama.ru