Parents love the spontaneity and positive of preschool children. But often they have no idea what to do with childish obstinacy, hysterics, selfishness. It seems that these are mistakes of education or a terrible character, which must be urgently corrected in the child.
But it's just age, which requires a more attentive attitude of adults, their participation and direction. Children will cope with everything, only they need to gently help and not demand what is beyond their age.
This infographics shows the main features that are characteristic of children from 2 to 7 years. They often upset their parents, but in fact - this is the nature of preschoolers.
Characteristic features of children from 2 to 7 years
Children from 2 to 7 years are one of the most misunderstood categories of people. They do not know how to think twice, do several things at once, control their emotions. They can be arrogant, intractable and disobedient, and within a minute will laugh with their contagious laughter and fill the whole space with their joy.
Children from 2 to 7 years are difficult to behave well, their good intentions are rapidly disappearing. For an adult, there is no better test for maturity than interaction with them. But for their immaturity there are good reasons: their brain is in the process of development, because only in the first three years of life 100 billion neurons will form 1000 trillions of new neural connections, and this under ideal conditions.
Their brains are incapable of full integration up to 5-7-year-old age, and in the case of more sensitive children - up to 7-9 years (these are children more sensitive to external stimuli).
Lack of self-control and impulsiveness
Children from 2 to 7 years act recklessly because their brains are able to focus only on one thought or feeling per unit of time. They react instinctively and are not able to take into account the possible consequences of their actions.
Need for contact and closeness
Children from 2 to 7 years are looking for intimacy with adults, because they are not yet able to exist separately. Being close to adults is their greatest need, and they need to rest in our care, trust us so that we can lead them. They should not work to earn our love and attention.
Propensity to resist
Children from 2 to 7 years are inclined to resist when they feel compelled or controlled by someone they are not currently attached to. To reduce resistance, it is important to first take possession of their attention and activate the desire to follow, and only then express their request or switch to another type of activity.
Children from 2 to 7 love to play and have innate instincts to explore, fantasize and make discoveries. In the game the child is formed as a separate person, which will help him express and manifest himself in real life. Children should play to discover their inclinations, to release emotions, to develop creative potential and to play out possible solutions to problems.
Propensity to frustration and aggression
Parts of the brain responsible for inhibition and containment of sharp attacking impulses at the time of frustration in children from 2 to 7 years are still in development. When children are upset, they are prone to aggression. They need the participation of adults who would help them cope with these powerful emotions.
Self-centered behavior is indeed their characteristic feature, because healthy development implies that first they must be able to understand themselves, form an idea of themselves, and only after that they will be ready for social interaction. Before you expect them to understand others, you must first help them understand themselves.
Fear of separation
Children from 2 to 7 years have a strong need for communication, and this means that they will yearn and worry at moments of separation with their basic attachments. If we leave them in the care of other adults, they should be well enough attached to them to feel safe. Sleep time is also perceived by them as a division, so they so often protest against putting.
Children from 2 to 7 years speak everything frankly, ascertain the facts as they are. Political correctness and diplomacy are not theirs. The fact is that they are only trying to understand their own thoughts and feelings, not paying attention to social norms and expectations.
Lack of respect for others
Children from 2 to 7 years look at the world from only one position, and most often with their own. When they are able to take into account more than one point of view (and this will happen between the ages of 5 and 7 years), they will be able to take into account not only their feelings, but also the feelings of others. And until then, adults will have to guide them in this and help them interact with other people.
Shyness with strangers
Shyness is an attachment instinct that is designed to preserve the connection between an adult and a child. We need not fight the shyness of children, but introduce them to people from their environment.
Deborah MacNamara (Debora MacNamara) - author of the book "Peace. A game. Development: how adults grow small children, and small children raise adults. "
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